Tell me about ignoring bad behaviour

[Clare123]

My toddler's behaviour is challenging to say the least! I have been advised to ignore a lot of behaviour that is not dangerous or harming others, but to focus on the good stuff - this was by a HV.

but, i am struggling with this. For example, this morning he emptied the recycle bin on the floor and then started throwing stuff.....should I have ignored that?

Also, he keeps running into me and his sibling?

Also, at school he kicked the bins - do I ignore that too?

Help!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Blimey a HV with good advice!!

I would say he's having a problem with jealousy. Don't ignore the throwing of rubbish just don't make a big issue of it. Try taking him out on his own to make him feel more secure and loved.

how old is your toddler? my ds is 21 months and he is simalar. when they do something naughty and you react to it they see it as some sort of game. if you dont react they get bored and move on to something else instead. something more constructive hopefully not the best person to advise you but someone with more experience may come along.

I'm not sure about the running into other people but the rest of it isn't bad behaviour from a toddler, it's just being curious.

What noise does it make when I kick the bin? etc

If the recycling was cleanish and safe eg card or plastic, I'd just say something like 'that's not a toy, it needs to go back in the box' and then get him to join in the clear up or hand him a soft ball he can throw in the house. If it was glass or tins, I'd have explained that he mustn't touch it because he could get hurt.

Ooooh I am going to lurk on this thread as I too struggle with ignoring bad behaviour. I'm good at positive praise... I just pray that one day it may sink in a little bit... (the DC that is- not me)