just had worst day...sobbing...need reassurance that i havent fucked everything up

[alannabanana]

have had a very clingy cryey DS today (15 months) who is normally happy and independent. i don't know what has switched in him but today he's been like a completely different child and im so stressed thinking tomorrow's just going to be a repeat.
he's barely slept or eaten all day, and just wants to hug me all the time - at first i was loving it as he never usually wants to hug unless he's fallen over or is very tired, but all day he's wanted to be picked up and gets so upset if i put him down - i've hardly been able to do anything!
plus when he goes down at night he usually falls straight alseep no problem, but he's up there now still giving it some 20 mins later! im losing my mind
the only thing i can think thats upset his demeanor so much is having the mmr yesterday and he's getting over a cold. ive dosed him up but i just can't think what else to do. i hate leaving him to cry but im at a complete loss.
just when you think you've got everything sorted, they move the goalposts and it completely throws you.
sorry just needed to share as theres no dh tonight.
xx

oh he's just not right is he

calpol for him and wine for you

He needs cuddles and thats what you have to give him. Just wish you had someone there to cuddle you too!

Yeah it seems like a reaction to the jab. Go and talk to him and calm him down. bring him downstairs he's not well is he?

Sit with him on yr lap and let him go to sleep he's only little.

Oh, it is horrible when they are so upset.

Go and give him a cuddle. If you do this tonight when he is unwell it will settle him. Don't worry about spoiling him. Give him what he needs, mummy cuddles.

thanks guys. he can have all the cuddles in the world, but right now i just wish he'd sleep - he so needs it.
i could absoluely murder a big glass of red right now but am 25 weeks pg with number 2. did buy some coffee cake today though...
and i think i'll try my hardest to convince dh to pull a sickie tomorrow!

Yes it'll just be the jab. My dd was only out of sorts for one day though, so hope he is back to normal tomorrow. Don't despair!

How long ago did you dose him up? It takes about half an hour to kick in I find. Go stroke his back / cudle him to settle him, it won't suddenly make him expect it every night, don't worry.

mmr does that.

Max Calpol dose in order.

i could have posted this thread title myself. i have just put 25 month old down...she woke at 5am and we have had severe tantrums almost constantly throughout the day. couldn't get her to have her luchtime nap, nor eat anything of substance which exasperated everything too. she eventaully crashed out after a huge crying/screaming fit at 4pm - i had to wake her at 6 to sort her out for bed and try and feed her and all hell broke loose again until just now. i can visibly feel myself stopping shaking now, but an hour ago i was sobbing in the lounge as she screamed on the kitchen floor...every little thing set her off today and i mean into the most severe tantrums that i just could not coax her out of..am i doing the right thing by ignoring her?? she just pushes me away anyway but then gets herself so worked up she's almost sick and is shaking and sobbing...luckily she is at nursery tomorrow but i feel the same - i am dreading another day with her. i am having awful thoughts like i just want to hit her (which i know i wont do but the thought alone is scary) is this normal?? i'm also 5 nmonths pregnant which doesn't help in terms of strength of emotions..am desperate for some advice from someone who's been in the same boat. why is my child such hard work?? apparently she's quiet as a mouse at nursery and just saves it up for the days i'm off work i reckon. help!!!

ah
god babies are a pita

you need to get out out out otu
go and look at somehing
go for a walk

do anything to get out

Oh I'm dreading DD2's MMR booster due this month....she was clingy for a whole week after her first one...

But yes, for tonight, have a glass of wine bt when DH is around tomorrow or the weekend, get some time apart from her, I love going to the pool (with steam room) at times like this...

driedapricots - what a pants day - sorry to hear that. i know it sounds cliche but, terrible twos?? i think she's pushing against those boundries like nobodys business because thats what they do at that age - im sure i'll be met with the same defiance when DS is two - not looking forward to that i must say!

btw - i managed to convince dh to pull a sickie tomorrow - he didn't need his arm twisting much luckily!

Hey alannabanana

It's the jab for sure go get that cake as you can't/shouldn't drink

Hope tomorrow is better but expect 48 hours rather than 24. You need some space/help/time out too but cuddles will make you both feel better. Go watch him when he's asleep in a bit - bless, you'll feel better. It's ok to feel like you're being a pants mummy - and normal - but you're not. I promise!!

Take care x

Spooky. I've just posted something similar but don't have the excuse of MMR jab. My 12 month old gets really distressed whenever I put him on the floor to play. Throws back, hits his head, etc, etc. He's insane unless he's picked up and being hugged. Is your DS ever as clingy as this outside of jab time? It's such a wrench. I hope today is better for you. Please let me know if you learn anything that might be of help to us too!

much better today though still off his food a bit. and the area where his jab went in is really brusied, poor thing. really helped having dh around today i must say. how single mothers do it is beyond me - i would have had a nervous breakdown months ago!

sukiking - has he always been that clingy or is this a new phase type thing? i hope for your sake its something he'll grow out of, eeek!

Hey guys, this parenting thing is a real test sometimes isn't it? Both of mine went thru that horrible clingy phase for a while but luckily now they're 4 and 2 I think we're are past it. I do think it's just part of growing up and you will get good days and bad days. Even now I get the odd day when I think to myself 'I am SUCH a good parent' and then the next is more like 'Sod this for a game of soldiers!'

Driedapricots i think the answer is in yr last sentence; according to montessori, who studied little children carefully, at yr DD's age they like everything to be the same in their routines. maybe she finds it hard to cope with the changes between nursery and home.

it's best that she doesn't behave like that a t nursery isn't it? Not easy though for you.

i would say be very flexible with her and choose your battles; they don't need big meals just nutritious ones. take her out etc.