My 6 year old son is finding it hard to make friends in his new school

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We recently moved out of London, partly to find a school which valued happiness and creativity over results and attainment. My husband and I love the new school with its emphasis on practical learning, often outside. But our 6 year old son (year 1) is finding it very hard to find a place for himself in a new peer group. Its surprising for us and very upsetting as he has always been very sociable with children of all ages and from all backgrounds. Can anyone offer any words of wisdom?

Give it time. How long has he been at the new school? It can take a long time to adjust and to make friends. Do any of his classmates live nearby? Could you invite any of them round to play? Are there any other clubs etc your DS could join to make friends (e.g. cubs, sports clubs)? Also have a chat with his teacher to see how he is settling in at school.

It's very hard starting half way through the year and I would imagine that the kids in the class have already formed their friendships especially if they started in reception and then Y1 and I would speak to his teacher and ask for help.

Don't let him know that it is getting you down otherwise he will become more upset, however if he does talk about someone in the class suggest inviting them over after school.

Thank you for responding. I have spoken to his teacher, she and all the staff have been wonderfully supportive and kind. Having a class mate over for tea tomorrow. Good advise to not let him know that I am worried. Will give it time.....

Can you have a get together at your house in the holidays?

Invite some mums over for coffee?

Ask him who he likes and see if you can hook up with their mum and invite them over to play.

How long has he been at his new school?