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DD's really scary behaviour after road accident

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tartyhighheels · 11/03/2010 04:50

My middle child, a DD who is 6 has been acting really oddly after an accident about 3 and a half weeks ago. We got hit very hard in our car. Myself and my other daughter were injured slightly but this DD and our baby DS seemed to be fine physically.

That said ever since then she has been really badly behaved. Quite tearful, very shouty and doing really horrible things around the house. Breaking things, drawing on walls, pouring nail polish on carpets, cutting up toys, destroyong food in the kitchen. Really it is at epidemic proportion and she cannot be left to co anywhere on her own or she will so something. We are talking about between 2 and 6 serious things a day.....

We have spoken and she cannot tell us why. When we offered are you jealous of DD or DS she sort of agreed, or are you worried about your dad (long story but actually she has remained largely unaffected by it all) she sort of agrees but i don't feel that is what it is really about. She does have some speech and language difficulties but again why wait until now to do this when they have always been there and she is almost up to speed now? I just cannot put it together but just now, laying pregnantly awake in bed I realised that this has been happening since half term when the accident happpened.

To be fair to her for some reason she has not looked well since then, black rings and excema has made a bit of a return. She does have coeliacs but that too is under good control.

So am I mad or could this be about the accident? Just seems that a DD that has always been so mild mannered, who a week or so before this happened received the most incredibly glowing picture from her teacher suddenly descends into this completely dreadul cycle of behaviour.

Yes we have tried to ignore, we have
s, we have talked but just cannt seem to get to the bottom of it.

Any clues?????

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legalityfinality · 11/03/2010 05:08

Hi, I don't really know anything about this issue but I suspect you could be right after finding this.

The trauma and shock must have been considerable and out of proportion to what an adult would feel, and she wouldn't be able to rationalise it I guess.

I hope you may also be able to find other sources that are helpful. I'm very sorry for your situation.

tartyhighheels · 11/03/2010 05:24

ahh yes - that's making sense - i haven't had time to research this as honestly only just dawned on me.

I feel a bit stupid for not realising before but DH just got up and I asked him when the exyreme stuff started and it was the day after, it has got worse and more extreme as it's gone on and is like she is constantly trying to draw really negative attention to herself.

I am calling her teacher today to ask if he has seen any change and will pop along to the docs too - she seemed completely fine at the time, very quiet but not hurt.

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Sukie1971 · 11/03/2010 05:30

The other thing to consider is - did she hit her head in the accident? She may have an undiagnosed brain injury, this can often result in no outward signs but behavioural changes.

Might be worth asking your GP to refer her for a head scan.

tartyhighheels · 11/03/2010 05:37

good point about the head - her sister did hit hers

oh i tell you i feel like such an idiot about this - older dd has hurt neck and losing feeling in her arm. I hurt shoulder and my guts shut down for a fortnight with shock. I was so grateful the other two seemed ok that i appeared to have completely missed this she has been so difficult and dh and me thought we were doing something wrong with her, wracking our brains and feeling guilty for maybe not spending enough time etc etc

and she does look pale and unwell but nothing coming of it

gp today for sure

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Sukie1971 · 11/03/2010 18:13

How did you get on at the GP? Ive been sleeping today (nightshift last night) and woke up thinking about you and your DD. Really hope shes ok

PixieOnaLeaf · 11/03/2010 18:23

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sphil · 12/03/2010 23:03

Even if the GP doesn't find anything you might consider cranial osteopathy?

tartyhighheels · 13/03/2010 10:17

Apologies for not replying wrong but no nothing physically wrong and she calmed a bit after we had a big chat about the accident, she is still not right in herself. I too am thinking about cranial osteopathy sphil because it was a hell of a whack, me and the other DD are still suffering a bit.

I feel so stupid for not seeing the connection before - she also told me how worried she was about my reaction to the person who hit our car - I went bloody insane as pregnant and all my DCs in my car and that scared her too.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions, I am going to keep a close eye on her.

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Sukie1971 · 13/03/2010 19:59

Thinking of you all

sphil · 13/03/2010 21:45

I can recommend a brilliant cranial osteopath if you live in or near Sussex!

tartyhighheels · 13/03/2010 21:56

yes i am in sussex - that would be great, thank you.

sukie, thanks for thinking about us all. I am really touched by that because it has been a difficult 4 weeks or so and H and I have frankly been terrified.

Feel now as though we are heading in the right direction and she is calmer and happier.

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sphil · 13/03/2010 22:15

His name is Nick Tuckley and he has practices in Brighton and Forest Row. I don't have his contact details any more (we've moved) but you should be able to google him

post · 13/03/2010 23:14

Nick Tuckley is great, and really experienced with children.

sphil · 14/03/2010 16:17

I loved going to him when we lived in Sussex - he was great with DS2, who is autistic. I remember holding DS2 on my lap while he did the osteopathy and feeling this incredible heat coming from his hands- and I am usually pretty sceptical about alternative treatments.

tartyhighheels · 14/03/2010 19:15

thanks so much - i will give it a try

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