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Girl aged 4.5 crying everytime she has to go out , advice needed please.

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darcymum · 08/03/2010 13:32

DD age 4.5 has been absolutely fine and a happy child until about 3/4 weeks ago when she started crying that she doesn't want to go to pre school.

Its not just pre school she doesn't want to go to ballet any more (which she loved) and even doesn't want to go out with the whole family at the weekend to things like swimming. We went to a local botanical gardens at the weekend and although she was very excited to be going when we got there and I was paying she started getting upset and saying she wanted to go home. We didn't leave and she did cheer up a bit but refused to go to the indoor soft play with our other two DCs.

I walk her to pre school crying every day, sometimes I stay with her for a bit and she is usually ok and has a nice day after a while.

We have moved house about eight weeks ago and so she attends a new pre school but she was absolutely fine for the first month, the ballet class is the same one as before.

I am pretty sure nothing has happened to her and have asked her why she doesn't want to go but without a real answer.

I am trying again with a new title to this tread as I didn't get a response with the last one. Don't know what to do, advice needed, please help.

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ppeatfruit · 08/03/2010 13:48

My DD hated change; especially moving house, schools etc. she still does and she's 30!!But she's very successful in life.

I think you seem to be reacting well; you just have to be calm and caring staying with her at pre school for a bit is a good idea. She's upset but will settle eventually.

darcymum · 08/03/2010 13:57

Thanks for responding. Thing is she was fine for the first month after we moved and skipped happily into her new pre school.

I sure I wont find it but I'm looking for somebody with a magic answer to make it all better.

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mamsnet · 08/03/2010 14:35

It's not just school though, is it? I'd hazard a guess that it's more about settling down into the new house and feeling secure there.. I wouldn't worry unduly about it.. She'll let you know when she's ready

ppeatfruit · 08/03/2010 15:00

Darcymum maybe the delay was 'cos she hoped it wasn't going to last.
Sometimes it's hard to understand them. Consistency and love is all she needs and she'll be fine

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