My 4 yr old will NOT sleep in his own bed, aaagghh..

[LondonMum73]

Hi
My 4 year old starts off in his own bed but then in the middle of the night ALWAYS comes in to my bed. I am a single parent (with no man on the scene) so there is plenty of room but that's not the point!
He used to be fine but the last few months have been a nightmare...when it first started I attempted the SuperNanny approach of walking him back to him bed. And back again etc. I only did this once as it involved me walking between my bedroom and his from 1am until 5am - TORTURE! He's had a bit of an eventful past 6 months as I split with my partner (who he loved) and moved house, oh and he started school in Jan.

Anyone have any ideas how to get him to sleep all night in his room? Or any idea of when he'll grow out of it? I've made his room really cool and done the bribery thing but nothing works!

Sounds like he has had a few months with a fair bit of change going on - personally I'd probably let him stay in with you til he feels more settled - once life gets back to 'normal' he'll probably start sleeping through in his own bed.

I'd go for the option that gets you the most sleep

I had the same issue, it really does get better, but dont waste your sleep!!! I contunued to put my daughter to her bed on a night...done all the cool bedroom, threats bribary - nothing works!!! It just takes time thats all its a big adjustment and if they think they can get away with it they will. A night light did help tho, but really they are still just babies. My daughter is now 5 and still comes into my bed in the night and sometimes she doesnt....your are not a bad mum cause they wont stay in their own bed. I know he young still but a sleepover also helped a friend to stay in his room...They do grow out of it...and my daughter said she does it caused she loves me so much lol!!

I did what the other posters suggest and imho it's done absolutely no harm.

what about putting a matress is his room and sleeping in with him for a few months weeks nights till he gets used to it and stays in his room?

what gets you the most sleep? dd (7) has been coming into my bed every night for the last few months (dh is away a lot for work and she just needs that extra reassurance) but she has perfected the art of creeping in so quietly that she doesn't wake me up - the first I know of it is when I wake up in the morning and she's there

she doesn't come in when dh is here, so I know she can sleep all night in her room, but she just prefers not to at the moment and as it's not causing me to lose any sleep it's not a problem for me - taking her back to her room all night definitely would be a problem

I'd be amazed if she's still doing it when she's a teenager ...