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jealousy in 2yr old

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blondiep14 · 06/03/2010 10:49

DS1 has just turned 2, his little brother is almost 8 weeks old. The past 2 weeks or so have seen DS1 start to hit, squeeze and generally be physically horrible to DS2.

What, in your experience is the best way of dealing with this? We praise any glimmer of good behaviour both in general and towards DS2. I let him 'overhear' me telling people what a great big brother he is but when he hits DS2 it is often completely out of the blue, for instance not when I am feeding him or someone is holding him. This morning we were pottering about and DS2 was minding his own business in his travel cot when DS1 went over and started pulling his foot!!
I think now he is also doing it for attantion.

He knows it is wrong but isn't worried in the least when he is told off/has something taken away etc.!!
I don't want to tell him off more than I am (I am quite stern but also explain why it's naughty, he wouldn't like it if it was done to him etc) I am worried about building even more resentment towards DS2 but I just don't feel like DS1 is getting it!

Please tell me it will soon pass. It's really upsetting me, I feel bad for DS2 getting clobbered but almost worse that DS1 is feeling so frustrated etc by his new brother. .

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jobet · 06/03/2010 15:51

It WILL soon pass ! My sister had a very similar issue with ds when dd arrived - he used to bite her and could not be left alone in a room with the lo. My sister felt, like you, that it was an attention thing. He soon grew out of it, but it did take time and a LOT of patience. Do you do the naughty step ? It worked brillantly for our ds when 2 (less so for our nearly 2 dd!)- worth a try. Good luck - they wil be 'besties' nefore you know it !

blondiep14 · 07/03/2010 09:10

thanks jobet, i hope so!
haven't tried the naughty step as I don't think he'd get it, trouble is with this situation he knows he's wrong and accepts any punishment graciously (have put him in his buggy for a few minutes mainly like atime out - something he'd usually hate) and doesn't kick up a fuss at all !!

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