Raising boys - help!

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

I'm sure this is all perfectly normal but it's driving me insane.

My DS (5) is an adorable wee boy but he constantly needs telling what to do. He's perfectly capable of doing stuff by himself but I am the proverbial rocket up his arse. He also never stops making a noise, it's not even talking (and he's perfectly eloquent when he wants to be) it's just noise, silly sounds constantly.

I am utterly fed up giving him instructions. I know he can do the stuff, I stand as much as possible before intervening else he'd never get there. Today was slightly better at nursery as I just waved him goodbye after waiting 10 minutes for him to change his shoes and hang his coat up so he hurried along a bit quicker.

How can I get him to listen and understand better. I had to give him a bollocking at the school gate as he ran off and crossed the road (albeit with a lollipop man) by himself then stood at the other side saying "nya nya nya" thinking it was a huge joke. He was full of remorse when I explained how dangerous it was to run off like that but then I know he'll just go and completely forget the lesson.

Sigh - thankyou for reading this far.

there is no cure.

and then they turn into fellas that need telling step by step

and then we blame the mothers

Well, I'm going to say that this isn't necessarily a boy thing, first of all. DS1 is not like this, DS2 is. Drives me mad.

I agree with Custardo though. You just have to tell them everything step by step, don't overload with too much in one go. Make sure you've got full attention when giving instructions. Ask them to repeat back what you've just said to make sure they've got it. Sanctions for dangerous things like running across the road - must hold your hand the rest of the way, for example.

and then people tell you that by aged 14,15,16,17, they should be able to do these things by themselves

yet every morning for school i used to say
"have you got a pen, have you got all your books, have you got a pe kit, have you got anything i need to sign"

and every parents evening ( i have twins) praises for dd, and "well mrs custardo, Hezus never seems to have a pen"

ermm
men can 't multitask

NEVER ask them to do more than one thing at a time lol

If they need to walk do not givethem ANYTHING else to do or talk about. Good luck!

Having taught 5 year olds, I can put my hand on my heart and say this is not a gender thing!! Its a 5 year old thing!!

Sounds exactly like my dd. She can't multi task AT ALL either - literally, if she's putting her shoes on, & starts talking, she stops putting them on (or indeed if I talk to her). So, no consolation, except that its not a boy thing . . .

Voluptua - perfectly normal. Our two DSs still behave like this age 8 and 10.

Secret is routine. Identical things done at the exact same time every morning going to school.

Anything out of the ordinary do it yourself the night before. Simple instructions. One at a time.