Arguing with my 6 year old

[Emsy32]

Hi everyone,

I just wondered if anyone else has the same problem as me, I have a 6 year old daughter, and we have very similar personalities and unfortunately we clash. Half the time we argue like sisters. I feel like a terrible mother and this is really starting to get me down, I just wish we could get on, but she irriates me and I irritate her! help please

i am a bit like this with my eldest, we're very similar and tend to clash a lot.

one thing i am doing though is NOT arguing with him. it's utterly pointless, so i am trying to ignore and take myself away otherwise i get dragged in.

we've also had talks at calm times about how we should speak to each other and stuff like that

emsy what kinds of things trigger a row?

Thanks for your reply, yes I guess I should try not to get dragged in, so hard though! we do have talks sometimes when we have both calmed down, and I tell her I love her but she makes me angry sometimes. And then everything is ok again, but then the next day it all starts again!

Hi cyb,

It can be very minor things, such as she may cheek me or answer back and then i get angry with her and we start rowing. Or it may be she wants something and i say she can't have it so she moans for hours and hours until i just lose it and we start shouting at each other! I would say I don't have alot of patience which doesn't help and she reminds me of me when I was younger and I was a brat! lol

If she is whinging on for hours and hours leave the room. Don;t give her an audience. Or do the broken record act. that woon't give her any fuel to debate with. I think getting cross with cheek is okay, but its important not to let it drag on and become much bigger than the original problem.

Thanks cyb I'll give those ideas a try