Please help me!

[LauLau15]

Hello all,
i have a 2year old little boy who most of the time is cute, loves to play etc.
Just recently i have noticed that when he is poorly (he currently has a little cold) he becomes very aggressive, towards me and his grandmother. He hits me in the face, pushes me out of the way and refuses to get in the car etc.
i have had to take a firm hand with him and ignore the mood swings but i feel like a rubbish parent who cant control their child. sometimes i'm even reluctant to take him out and about but i know i have to just do it.
is it normal for a child to be like this especially when ill.

Hello there
Just wanted to let you know that my daughter (also 2) is revolting when she's unwell! Very aggressive, objectionable, resistant to cuddles and comforting. Strangely, my dad is much the same! She takes a little time to get back to her normal, slightly less objectionable self, but gets there in the end! Actually, we can predict when she's going to come down with something because her behaviour goes a bit wonky a couple of days before she becomes visibly ill. So, I don't reckon it's because you're no good as a parent, just that your son doesn't like feeling rotten. Hope that helps

Hi. My son (also 2) is the same. He is teething at the moment and is an absolute nightmare! I think it could be the terrible 2s as well!!!

I am like that when I am ill, isn't everyone? I don't hit people in the face, but I shout and I'm very ill-tempered.
I would like to reassure you that I am much nicer when I'm well.
My son is the same, nature/ nurture?

It's pretty normal. At that age they cannot say what's wrong and are unwell and frsutrated.

What really brought it home to me was when I as out with my sister and her DD who was about 2.5 at the time and and she kept saying she wanted this and then no, she wanted that and then finally said "I want something" - they dont have the vocab to say what's going on and get blurghhhhh.