9&half yr old boy looking at porn, normal?

[MissJaf]

Hi, my 9 and half year old boy was looking at porn at his grandmas. Grandma found it in history. Is this normal for his age, we are both shocked.....and have learnt from it as in parental controls, yet we didnt think he had interest in sex yet. I was going to get advice from docs?Have spoke to him not to do this again. Any advice what to do?

Don't bother going to the doctor...I personally think 9 1/2 is young but thats only because my nearly 9 year old would never do that.

All pc's must have tighter controls on them by the sounds of it. How did he have enough time to look without getting caught?

I would say that yes its perfectly normal to have an interest in it at his age. I've had to speak to my nearly 8 year old who was googling "people having sex".

I spoke to a few people in the know about it, its fine for them be showing an interest/experimenting, normal childhood sexual development. Though obviously we need to protect them from what is out there via the means of parental filters etc as you have done.

When I spoke to ds I didn't do it as in "that is naughty, don't do that again", we just explained it was normal to be interested but there is lots of stuff on the internet that isn't good for children to see and if he wanted to know anything he could ask and we would explain.

Bet it hasn't stopped him trying though when my head is turned lol. So far my k9 net filter has picked up anything naughty.

DH and I were talking about this yesterday too, they are just doing exactly what we did at this age, only we looked up dirty words in a dictionary, they do it on the internet, lol.

"ell, I don't suppose he got to those sites by googling "nasty hardcore porn". If he googled "sex", which would be a perfectly legitimate thing for a lad his age to wonder about, it's hardly his fault if some of the material that turned up was rather different from what he'd have got if he'd asked you for information instead.

This takes me back... my friends & I used to find the Art books in the school library & sneak a look at the naked Titian ladies

I suppose this is Progress

I think it is a rite of passage. I was about that age when my friend and I would look at her dads hidden girly mags....just curiosity on my part as I had been sheleterd from anything of that sort.

normal I'd say though I aprecciate that the information available now on the net is WAY beyond the stuff I saw in girly mags.

In retrospect I wish my parents had been more open with me about that sort of stuff and not ignored it or been too shocked or concerned to talk about it.

I think it is perfectly normal too. A boy in my dd's class at school (less than 9) is obsessed with boobie's. He pesters his dad to bring the sun or other tabloid paper back from the UK. Sadly where we live, although prostitution and sex shops are not allowed, hard core penetrative porn is available at the kiosks all over town.
I shouldn't worry about it too much.

Thanks for all comments!