Do you lift your child for a wee at night?

[beesonmummyshead]

dd was out of daytime nappies at christmas, and just after started being dry at night, We kept her in appies for 4 weeks or so, but with only 3 wet(ish) nappies during this time we decided to ditch them.

For the last 4 weeks she has had no nappies at night and has mostly been dry, with only a couple of accidents. However the last time she wet the bed she was incredibly distressed and mentioned it all the next day. We made it sound serious, but not overly bothered, just saying things like "well it was an accident, and it doesnt matter, but next time make sure you have a wee before bed etc"

Since then to minimise accidents and her concerns I have lifted her at around 10/11pm for a wee. The problem I have is that she sobs and cries at being woken. It takes a good minute or two of crying before she has a wee. I hate the fact that I am causing her distress.

What would you do? continue to lift at night, as it stops the distress (and inconvenience) of a wet bed, or go with it and let her learn to control herself for longer?

Oh I should have said, lifting her to wee also means she sleeps past 6am in the morning, presumably as a full bladder does not wake her....

We went through a stage of lifting ds, now 5 at 10ish as he started wetting the bed again after being dry. Although it helped with the wetting, ds was so out of it when we woke him that he would be totally confused and try to get up and go downstairs. He also got quite upset and so we stopped lifting him and he hasn't wet the bed since.

I would stop lifting her if she is getting upset as it is traumatic for you both. Giving lots to drink in the day apparently increases bladder capacity so she might be able to hold on for longer?

I take DD (5) sometimes if she's had too much to drink before bedtime as she's a very sound sleeper and often doesn't wake by herself if she needs to go (wets the bed). But she never wakes up; sleeps through the whole thing...