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Toddler behaviour - please tell me you have been through or are going through the same!

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Bensmum76 · 25/02/2010 12:06

Hi all, My DS 2.4 years old seems to have turned into a bit of a monster over the last week. My DH and i have been off work all week as we attempted toilet training this week (have since given up) and my DS has had at least 10 tantrums. Although exhausting for all of us I can handle the tantrums fairly well, but he just seems so unhappy sometimes. I know I shouldn't compare him to other children but we were at a class this morning and he was the only child not joining in, wouldn't let one of the helpers hold his hand to help him across a beam, cried and moaned each time the group had to do something then had a meltdown when he had to share a bike with his friend. I took him out of the class and tried to calm him down, which he eventually did but then refused to join in with the singing and was generally a pain (I mean that in the nicest way). All the other children were singing and dancing and my DS sat with me and moaned! He hasnow just refused to eat his lunch so I nicely took him down from the table and he went into his playroom and shut the door behind him. I then promptly burst into tears. I think I'm so upset because he's growing up and becoming his own person and doesn't need me as much???? Any advice welcome!

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Patsy99 · 25/02/2010 15:28

I've got no advice sorry but Monday with my 2.5 year old dear son was pretty similar. Whinging all the time, "I don't like you Mummy", "no" to pretty much everything, playing with the cooker and then completely refusing to eat any supper. I managed to avoid crying (myself, I mean), held off snapping at him until about 3 pm but was so bloody relieved to get him into bed. It's just a phase (or so I'm told). It gets to me if I see it as a sign of my own failure.

Patsy99 · 25/02/2010 15:30

One other thing - many days he's great fun. Somedays I think he's just grumpy, wound-up or a bit miserable.

ppeatfruit · 25/02/2010 15:47

Maybe yr ds could feel the pressure of the 2 of you (were you doing it together?) potty training him and didn't want to 'perform'.

They tend to do it when they're ready like walking.

maybe he's missing you usually and found it all too much that his routine was different (is he normally with a minder or in nursery)?

i wouldn't worry he sounds quite normal.

Bensmum76 · 25/02/2010 18:18

Thanx for your replies. Think we have a reason why my DS has been so tricky this week - he has chickenpox!!! First spot came out Tuesday on his face and I thought it was a normal spot. Lunchtime today we noticed more, now he's covered!!! At least I know why he's been such a nightmare now, poor baby

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bondgirl77 · 26/02/2010 11:26

Oh thank god everyone else with a 2.4 year old is having this! I work 4 days a week but my day 'off' with him (and all weekend days at the moment) start with 'no, don't want to get up' and continue with 'no' to practically everything, and tantrums when taking him away from anything he's enjoying like park etc. I almost don't want to take him to anything that he'll find enjoyable because of the nightmare of the tantrum when it's home time! Horrible! Although my mum told me she stopped taking me to the park for similar reasons for a while when I was this age so perhaps it's payback time...! It's a relief to know you're not alone though, sometimes on those days you just look forward to bedtime. I do find it's worse when they are tired, or perhaps they are feeling under the weather. Bizarrely my DS is also usually in a rotten mood when he's due a big poo... :D

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