toilet trained and dry at night 4 yr old having accidents

[supernannyfan]

my dd has been toilet trained for a year and dry at night for 8 months, but has been having toilet accidents for 9 days now.
a couple of times were explainable ( couldn't get door open at a friend's house, excited at a party) but other times its happening after i've asked her to go to the loo, ie. just before bed and she says she doesn't have a wee, then promptly wees her pants 5 mins later. she says she didn't realise the wee was coming.
she has also wet the bed 3 nights in a row, despite me waking her at 10.30 and trying to get her to the loo or potty which is in her room with a nightlight. (i must do the double sheet thing!)
am getting her to rinse out soiled clothes and change herself, and not chastising her. don't know if it's medical or emotional.. she's happy at school and nothing has changed at home.
i would be grateful for any advice on this matter as i live on a small island, and there aren't lots of other mums for support and i dread taking her to the paediatrician as the healthcare system is a nightmare.

to be honest it sounds normal most children have accidents again even after being dry as long as you can rule out urine infection

then dont ask her if she needs to wee tell her to go for a wee lots of praise after

hopefully it will pass my friends son who is five started wetting in day and night she had to become a little more vigilant in day as he would become so engrossed he'd just wee so she would tell him to go do a wee but for night she just got bed mats and it soon passed

also if she isnt waking herself to wee she may not be fully ready at night as its a hormone that kicks in that wakes them to let them know they need a wee our pediatrician advises against waking or lifting as says it encourages to wee asleep and were to leave ds nearly 5 in pull ups until they are dry as when hormone kicks in it'll all work in own time

have tried being really firm and telling her, she just gets mad and refuses, don't want to make it a big issue and don't think the naughty stool is the way forward. am trying to be chilled about it, but suspect we may have to rule out urine infection. thanks for your advice bubblagirl, will keep you posted.

she has been waking to wee at night, just seems to have stopped, she was using potty or going to bathroom, its just gone tits up..

well if she could do it she will do it go to gp and get urine tested rule that out first and then maybe start a star chart and if you have 7 dry days gets a treat if she has 3 dry nights can have something special for breakfast etc may give her incentive to try harder again

it isnt unusual at all my ds is nearly 5 and im always having to tell him to go for a wee other wise he'll say he doesn't need one and then doesn't make it in time

and my friend has just been through same with her 5 yr old who started wetting in day and night again that now has stopped did take few weeks of chart but he soon got back into it again first i would definitely rule out uti

My six year old goes through periods of returning to wet his bed. Usually it happens if he is unwell, or if something has upset him. Just recently he wet his bed 4 nights in a row and if conincided with a bad crying patch my 4 month old was having (crying all day and night - stressed us all out) You might want to see if she has something that is bothering her? Hope this helps

thanks missoz, have asked her and all ok at school (it doesn't happen there) last night she fell asleep on the sofa and when i woke her to go to the loo she went crazy and cried for half an hour, wouldn't let me touch her, tried to hit me etc. very stressful.. another friend suggested maybe its a control thing, battle of wills.. will see if things improve over the weekend and will go to doc on monday if needs be.