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Does anyone else have a toddler who cries/whinges/clings all day?

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suiledonne · 23/02/2010 14:11

DD2 is 15 months and until Christmas she was very content. Since then she has started walking and is getting more and more miserable.

If I don't give her 100% of my attention all the time she clings to my legs crying and moaning and seems so miserable. She hates me being on the phone, cooking, doing things with dd1.

We are co-sleeping and she is now feeding more in the night than she did 6 months ago.

On top of that she had given up daytime breastfeeds but is now constantly pulling at my clothes looking for a feed.

I think it is just seperation anxiety of some sort but I don't know how to deal with it.

I spend lots of time playing with her and dd1 and set things up for her to do herself but if I ignore her at all she just gets worse and worse. Sometimes I just have to get things done and it is upsetting to see her like this.

She is only ever happy for a minute or two at a time. It seems like even when I do what she wants - read, play etc it doesn't satisfy her.

DD1 (3) is starting to be worn out from it too.

I know this all sounds terribly negative but I do love her very much and she is the cheekiest funniest little thing when she is in good form but these days that is rare.

Is it just a phase or does it sound more than that?

I don't know what to think anymore.

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OTTMummA · 23/02/2010 15:30

it is just a phase, my DS got to this point at a similar age, i couldn't do ANYTHING! without him with me, i had to exhaust him so he would sleep for 1hr after lunch so i could clean/wash up prep dinner etc, he wanted to be carried all the time etc,
im afraid all you can do is work around it, maybe include her in some of the cleaning etc, chat to her when your doing something she can't do ie sing a song,
my son got over it after a month or so, def not longer than 2 months.

after this he gained a lot more independance and started doing more things by himself, and actually didn't like me helping him etc.

suiledonne · 25/02/2010 16:59

Hi OTTMummy, funnily enough she has been a lot better the last 2 days after being at her worst when I posted on Tues.

I am making more of an effort to give her 100% some of the time rather than 50% all the time while doing other things IYKWIM

I am including her more too and she loves to hold my hand while we go around the house doing chores together.

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