I KNOW I shouldn't compare to other kids but..

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My DS just turned 2 and I have friends with sons same age. They have been potty trained for months and now sleeping in a proper bed. My DS is only just getting interested in potty and won't/can't tell me when he needs the toilet, and is still sleeping in his cot.

He seems quite happy with the situation and I'm happy if he's happy... but starting to doubt myself.

Am I right to let him develop in his own time

or

am I being selfish by not challenging him and .. dare I say it.. keeping him a baby?

Let him develop in his own time.

Remember, not every parent tells the truth about their child's development. And regarding the cot, why does moving out of the cot = challenging your child? Enjoy your DS.

DS3 (2yrs 10mths) has only just moved into a big bed. Was in a cotbed for about a year and a half.

Didn't bother to potty train him until he was 2yrs, 6months and he got it in 3 days, whereas his brothers, who I started training at 2, took a lot longer to get it.

Please don't worry

Let him lead the way, definitely. At 3.2, DS was the last of his group of friends to be potty trained, after many unsuccessful attempts. Trying before he's ready = lots of unnecessary stress for you both.

dd (3rd child) absolutely refused to do any sort of potty training until I forced the issue just before her 3rd birthday. And it took no time at all, and there were no accidents and we never had to rush to find the potty as she could hold on forever! And dd 1 and 2 did it earlier but with much more stress for me!

In your position I'd be enjoying your son just as he is!

(and maybe get new friends who are more honest or less competitive (or not first-timers...)

Like everyone else said, he is an individual and while you are happy, he is happy.

Relax!

My DD didn't sleep in her own bed (she coslept with us) every night until a few months ago - shortly before she was five. She wasn't properly toilet trained until 3.3 (night and day).

She is absolutely fine! She is now 5.3, is ski-ing as I write this and can swim a length. And can speak English and French.

There really isn't much correlation between different developmental stages.

Phew! Thank you for the reassurance!

If it ain't broke... I shan't fix it

Try to save your competitive parent energies for the things that really matter!

All children, unless they have SN, manage to be toilet trained/sleep in their own beds etc pretty easily, and it is really not worth battling over.

I saved my energy for ensuring my DD is bilingual and learning lots of sports. That is harder, and more useful in the long term!

don't let yourself be pressured into anything. i potty trained dd1 at 3.5 years and she got the hang in 3 days. don't sweat it.

LOL I just waited until DD said to me one afternoon "Mummy I want to do a poo in the loo". A couple of hours later the poo was followed by a wee.

End of toilet training!