My Baby wont settle and refuses his dummy!!

[juliagoolia]

Hello!!

Someone please help, its driving me mad!!
My baby is 5 weeks old coming up and i think to be honest he was suffering from colic, we have used infacol and seems to be working well.
He is struggling to settle but is refusing his dummy. He nods off after his feed and when he is winded then wakes again screaming after about 10 mins and is trying to eat his hand. I kept thinking he was still hungry but he will refuse his bottle too so he cant be?? i will try winding him incase he has more to come up and nothing?? Its driving us potty honestly. He will nod off on my husband and i and also when my husband puts his finger tip in his mouth. so it has to be the comfort thing he needs that little something to drop off?? but he just wont take a dummy, spits it right back out or when you try and move it around in his mouth he will push his tongue forcing it out.
Anyone have any ideas what i can do or try??
Many thanks.xx

Hi juliagoolia-my ds(12weeks) sucks on his hands when he is trying to settle himself if he is overtired. Does your Ds nap much during the day? He could be overstimulated so cant 'switch off' when he drops off to sleep after a feed. Babies of this age cant stay awake long in between feeds, and even just talking too them can overstimulate them if theyve been awake too long.
I found swaddling helped my ds fall asleep better, and making sure i goy him down for a nap when i saw the cues-in his case he tends to get glassy eyed, if i waited for the yawns it was too late, he was overtired by then.

None of my three took to dummies, so personally I would give up on trying to give him a dummy for the time being.

Where are you putting him to nap? Maybe he's easily disturbed (my 1st dd would've snored on if a bomb had dropped but both my twins woke at the slightest sound.) If you tend to keep him in the room with you, maybe try putting him down in his basket or cot in another room.

Are you happy he's having enough each feed? One of mine had reflux and was very unsettled after a feed during the first few weeks but she was about 9 weeks before it became obvious she had more than just a bit of wind (started taking less each feed and began crying with real distress)- if the infacol stops being effective or he starts showing signs of real discomfort after a feed, have a word with your gp.

Hope that helps

Thankyou anniebigpants and polly blue! i find swaddling him is better yes. he has no problems sleeping at night after his last feed at half 10 11 ish which is strange. but then the house is quiet as ds1 is in bed!!! :O)he sleeps in our room in his moses basket. it is just in the daytime where he isnt having enough sleep i think. its a mixture of my ds1 playing and waking him up with the noise and him not being able to settle himself.so come the late afternoon he is shattered. he doesnt feed brilliant in the day either leaves some oz'z then wakes wanting more. he normally stays downstairs with us in his basket during the day so i can keep an eye on him. maybe im going to have to put him to sleep upstairs and try that??

hi Julia,
yes, I think putting him upstairs to sleep during the day is worth a try. My dd1 seemed to 'know' when her basket wasn't in its usual place and wouldn't settle very well, and obv the bedroom was quieter than downstairs. Tho it's hard when you've got another little one rampaging around isn't it?!