Sore loosing 7 yo ds

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He gets ridiculous when he looses, say at Wii tennis or football or just about anything really.

We had said "it's all part of the game/someone has to come 2nd, 3rd etc/I have lost on purpose just to please him/all teams and people don't win/do you think David Beckahm was always a winner etc etc etc. We made a big whoop and holler when he wins, console when he looses, I even made him a gold medal recently when he won something.

He just goes off in one frustrated big bad flailing mood.

He went to a party where they did roakc climbing and because he was 4th out of 7 he collapsed in tears for over half an hour.

He's nearly 8.

I am sure there is nothing that can be done, but any advice.

I think that a lot of children can be like this to a certain degree, but your son does sound quite extreme.
DS is not great, but he used to be a lot worse. I tend to make sure that he is put into competitive situations (eg he plays rugby and football) and he has gradually learnt that you can't always win.
He is by no means perfect, and is quite capable of throwing a strop, but he has got better
He is 8 btw

My DS is same age and also hates to lose at anything. He is so competitive and puts so much pressure on himself to win.

Don't have any answers but am interested to see if anyone else does.

DD is the opposite and whilst she loves it when she wins - she not bothered if she doesn't - just like me maybe its a boy thing???

My brother was like this - I remember many occasions when he'd overturn the Monopoly board in a fit of pique. He'd also stomp off the cricket field when he was out. My parents made sure he took part in team sports. As a result of his comeptitiveness, I think I suppressed my own competitive urges, 'cos I saw how unattractive it was in him ...

Anyhoo, DS2 (age nearly 7) is competitive, and neither DS or I pander to the bad behaviour that goes along with it. From a very young age, we would all shake hands after playing a board game, to emphasise good sportsmanship. If he kicks off, we ignore him or send him to his room if he's really disruptive.

To me, it's about acknowledging feelings, but making it very clear that certain behaviour is not tolerable. Sound like a hardass, don't I - but I've had a lot of practice in this as DS1 is very emotional and prone to violent tempers.

PS, I don't think it's necessarily a boy thing. DS1 is not competitive

Sorry, forgot to mention - we got a W ii for Xmas, and I've noticed that DS2 gets much more "into" it than DS1, and upset when he loses or has to come off it. This is worse the longer he's been on it - so I strictly ration the times of each session.

Also - stop letting him win !