Would you be able to help me, its regarding my son, he is 5.
We seem to be having a few difficulties and i wonderd if you
could help me in relation to what i should do??
DS is a child that is full of energy, he is a bright child, his
teachers have commented upon his abilities, esp with speaking the
welsh language, we are not welsh speakers and he is fantastic with the
language. DS has a definate thirst for knowledge, he sometimes cant
get enough, he has a good ability to apply his knowledge too. His
writing is not so good, but i think he is ambidextrous, he uses both
hands and writes mirror images. DS will concentrate as long as you want if you or the subject
interests him, he is a very interatcive child and is always asking
questions. He is very sociable, sometimes extremely sociable, he will
talk to anyone and anywhere. However seems to handle himself better if
in the company of older children or younger chidren (todlers or
babies), DS is very protective of people around him and very
thoughtful about his sister (she is nearly 4) for instance if he is
given a treat he will ask whoever if he can have another for his
sister. DS though is very excitable and happy, but sometimes this
spills into him being very boisterous and physical, DS is not
pre-meditated, but seems to have no awareness when he is excited about
personal space or interaction, he shows no awareness of social cues
that
other kids dont want to play. DS seems to struggle when he has no
structure or focus, he can be distracted easily. DS is a typical what
you see is what you get child, people or environment play no part on
what he will do or what he wont do. He is also reasonably honest,
sometimes to his own detriment, he will also make up stories which
sometimes gets him to trouble but he doesnt seem to realise this, he
told me this week he was in the heads room for hitting another child,
so i talked to him about this and reinforced good behaviour, when i
asked about this in the school, there was no incident!
I am not concerned about his ability or that he may have a
disability, i have done my reasearch and nothing seems to "fit",
he also sleeps really well and eats really well.
DS and his class mates are on their 4th teacher since sept 08, not counting any supply he
has had. This in istelf is concerning me. The teacher he had from nov
08-july 09 made fab progress with him and he really had a gleaming
report, im fearing now its all being undone, his previous teacher sep
09- dec 09 made good progress with him (had a few ups and downs) by
using simple techniques like a red square for him to sit and stay on
whilst on the carpet with other children, this worked, also during free
play DS struggled so she give him options to choose and directed his
attention, this worked. However his new teacher hasnt had this
information, so i have told her to use these techniques with him and
she started yesterday to introduce them. She seems like she is
struggling to manage DS in her classroom. I have been called into the
heads office several times since sept and twice in the last two weeks.
Im also informed that another childs parents have complained about DS
and another child for hitting their child. i was furious with the
school for punishing DS based on the childs/parents account, (no
member of staff witnessed the incident but apparently DS said he did)
i am all for consquences to behaviour and would be the first to support
the school but i feel like they are not helping DS proactively, they
are just dealing with incidents as they happen not looking at what or
how they can focus his energy. I have thought about ringing the access
and inclusion dept and speaking to an educatioal psychologist regarding
him, so we could put some positive strategies into place for him which
would help him and the teacher.
i have taught him to recognise when he is angry, and have told
him its ok to be angry
but its not ok to hit or hurt others, DS does not think before
reacting on his instinct, he must take a deep breathe and clap his
hands, this then allows him time to collect himself and not hit out in
frustration, this works most of the time.
He has also been wet through the night during the school wk and dry when not in school.
He has been more difficult recently, we seem to be having a power struggle and he is begginning to answer back and fight his own corner..im worried too that i may have create some of this, i think i might over parent, im always watching him ready to correct his behaviour. i dont let him get away with anything! All his teachers have consistently agreed though that he is not naughty, he is disruptive and takes their attention away from everything else.
Help?? i dont know whether this is just normal 5yr old stuff or something deeper...
Thankyou..and Helloooo!!!
Firebugfly