1 year old wakes same time every night

[CarolineKhurana]

This is my first post. My son is almost 1 years old and has normally slept quite well. 5 weeks ago my husband and I moved, now my son has his own room. During the first couple of weeks my son developed a cold and was difficult to settle but now goes down at 7pm no problem, but between 10pm and 11.30pm he wakes crying uncontrollably, he calms once picked up. While he was ill he was sleeping my my bed, now he expects the same. I have tried to let him cry but it gets too much. Why does he wake at the same time? He is happy to go off to sleep but then wakes up. I can only think that he wakes around the time I go to bed, no noise changes occur as my husband stays up later; he would stir when I went to bed in our previous home when he slept in same room. This is affecting my husband and I as he has slept on the sofa for the last year due to snoring affecting my son sleeping (its is very bad!), we thought moving would mean we could have our bed and life back but this has not happened and my husband seems distant. HELP!!

Hi there

I'm not expert, but on our postnatal thread (Jan 2009) we've found a lot of the babies started waking at around 10.00-11.00 pm at that age and some of them in the night as well.

We're thinking its probably developmental as they all seemed to do it at roughly the same age.

I'm afraid I don't have much advice, except to say that my own dd (13 months) has just stopped doing this after waking at 10.30 almost on the dot every night for about four or five weeks. We just comforted and resettled her every time and she went back to sleep, but she was pretty restless in general throughout the whole night and as she is in our room, she kept me awake even while she was sleeping. I read somewhere that its because they are having such a developmental leap forwards at that age that they have huge amounts to process overnight.

I know some people have had a degree of success with 'wake to sleep'. Where you go in before their waking time and disturb them slightly without actually waking them up, tuck them in etc. The idea being that they then restart their sleep cycle and are sleeping when they would have been waking.

I'm sure someone else with more knowledge and experience will come along soon. Just didn't want you to go unanswered as I know what you are going through.

Thank you so much moosemama, that is really helpful. I had no idea that this could happen and gives me a better insight. I might try that 'wake to sleep' idea, anything worth a go. It is nice to know others are going through similar experiences, of course one would like to have a complete nights sleep but it is still comforting to hear your story. Many thanks.

I think it is worth trying the wake to sleep method just to see if it works. DS3 used to do the same - waking just as DH and I decided to go to bed ourselves and before we'd even got up off the sofa we would hear him!
I tried just going in that bit earlier and nudging him gently so he rolled over and it did seem to help, although I can't say it was for any great length of time so can't be sure it wasn't just something he was going to grow out of anyway but it seemed to work the times I tried it.
Not much else you can do really apart from get comfort from the fact that it will probably just be a phase so if the wake to sleep doesn't work, in time he will stop waking.
sorry not much help!