Consequences for one child without penalising the other

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Does anyone have suggestions on how to "punish" naughty DS (4 and 3/4) for bad behaviour without the other child (6) having to suffer the consequences as well?

Am finding DS's behaviour is now dominating the entire house to the detriment of DD. He Taking his toys away doesn't work, tried that. The only place in the house that's suitable for time out is his bedroom which is shared with his sister, so she can't play with her toys if he's in there. If I give him a TV ban and allow DD to watch tv or do some other activity with her, he will bang on the door and throw things so I have to intervene constantly. Have successfully introduced consequences for getting dressed and mealtimes, but now he's turned his attention to bedtime (running around, singing etc. for half an hour after they've had their story).

Anyone else have the "angel/devil" problem??

Pasta jar

You take pasta out for bad behavior, and put pasta in for good behavior. A certain amount of pasta can be swapped for money at the end of the week. RESIST THE TEMPTATION TO 'TOP UP' WHAT THEY HAVE SO THEY CAN BUY SOMETHING THEY REALLY WANT as this completely defeats the point of the pasta jar. If your DD gets a better things than her brother, it's because she deserves it.

Remember to make their targets age appropriate. Your son is 2 years younger than your daughter, so can't be expected to behave the same.

DD gets rewarded for good behavior, Ds gets punished for bad behavior and the consequences don't affect the other child.

Can I ask, as an aside, if your experience of 'behavior' isn't being coloured by the fact that you've raised one exceptionally well behaved child and now it's a shock to find that your DS will not behave as well?

thanks CT, no shortage of pasta in this house so might try that one.

I'm careful not to label DS "the naughty one" (except on internet) but am just sad to see DD getting sidelined when she rarely asks for anything but is so happy and willing to cooperate, while little brother is never satisfied.