3yr old keeps waking during night

[bobblesmum]

Help - need more sleep. My 3 yr old dd has been in big girl bed for about 3 weeks and her sleeping pattern has changed. She is waking durning the night more. At first its was a novelty that she could get out of bed herself and come into our room, but i quickly nipped that in the bud and put her back to bed with a kiss. Now she wakes, lays there shouting either 'mummy' or 'daddy' and crying. We shout out to her that it is still night night time and to be a good girl and go back to sleepy, this sometimes works but then the same thing will happen about an hour later and so on. We talk about it with her and she will say at bedtime 'i wont wake you up tonight mummy' so she is aware that she keeps waking us. I am so tired at the moment. Almost forgot, she still has a dummy and I sometimes think this is the main problem as if it falls out and she can not find it, she will lay there until I go and put it back in!

If you feel that the dummy is a problem why don't you wean her off it - the dummy fairy could come now she is in a big girl bed. Does she have a cuddly toy to comfort her instead?

I think you just have to persevere - sounds like you're doing everything right. Eventually she will adjust and start sleeping again.

Thanks, we tried the dummy fairy at Christmas and again for her 3rd birthday, but heart breaks when she crys for it and it is the only thing that can calm her down. I did keep a spare dummy (just in case). We have weaned her off it a little bit, she happily gives it up when going to pre-school and when she is at gramdma's, but has it more at home and especially at night. I know that we are going to have to have a cut off point. She also has a comfort blanket and pooh bear that she always takes to bed. She was a very good sleeper when in a cot. I just read a thread about a boy who waking and screaming who has just moved into big bed and having to sleep with mum n dad and I really feel for them. But do think I need to tackel the dummy thing. xx

DS is 3yo and sometimes wakes up during the night. Occasionally, he will be up for an hour or more, playing . His room is childproofed (as much as possible), he has a safety gate on his door, and we have a monitor that allows us to talk to him from our room. Usually, we can just talk to him over the monitor and just say "ok, you need to go back to sleep" and he'll say "ok goodnight" and go back to sleep. Otherwise, he'll play for a bit, then go back to sleep.

bumping this as my dd has the same problem without the dummy issue.

at the end of my tether