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7 yr old with anger management issues - lashing out. Can anything be done?

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NormaSnorks · 09/02/2010 21:39

DS (7) came home a bit upset. Said a boy in his year had kicked him really hard when they were in the changing rooms for football at school.
Said it was definitely deliberate, not an accident. Child said something like "I'm gonna get you" and kicked DS in the shin. He has a visible bruise.
He says he reported it to a teacher, but because it was his word against the other boy's (and he denied it) nothing happened.

DS says that this sort of stuff is not unusual from this boy, and that he does stuff like punch people if they get in his way in the playground.

I mentioned it to another mum today (one whose son was punched!)and she said that the child is apparently seeing a child psych. for anger management issues.

That's good if his problem is recognised, and he's getting help, but surely in the meantime he can't be left to go about thumping and hurting children just when he feels like it?

What, if anything, can I do? Surely the school should be managing this? Should I report these incidents as they happen, or build up a 'log' and wait until it is obvious there is a pattern?

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derrymac · 09/02/2010 21:49

I'd mention to teacher what your DS and said and say you are worried about him being hurt again and ask what teacher actually did say/do when the incident occured - she might have slightly different story from your son.
My son had behavioural probs and was violent and eventually excluded and later found to have autism - so try not to blame the parents/teachers too much yet! But your son should not have to be afraid - teachers have to try to control situation and protect kids. (I was a teacher too).

derrymac · 09/02/2010 21:53

also - forgot to say - the teacher cannot say 'I didn't see it/he has denied it - so I won't do anything' tact. Schools have to have antibullying policy by law and this should clarify what should have been done. Ask for a copy of it and it may make school more proactive in dealing with any subsequent aggressive behaviour.

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