suitable punishment for ds9

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He has always been "challenging" but is really pushing things at the moment and Ive had enough of him.

Last week we had stealing from his brother (4) and lying about it - he missed a party as a result.

This morning he has left an expensive electrical gadget out and the dog has run off with it leaving it ruined - it cost £200 - he is forever being told to put things away and not leave them lying around - its expensive and his responsibility.

I have told him off this morning but think he needs a punishment to make it sink in. I had thought about stripping his room of his tv and stereo and banning these items and the Wii for a month - is that harsh enough/too harsh. Do you think he will understand.

I have already told him that every tine he is rude or nasty to me or his brothers he will go to bed 5 mins earlier than usual - he will end up in bed by 4pm

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tv and stereo

It gets worse - got called into school today - he is being naughty at school as well. Not doing what he's being told, being rude to teachers, wandering off when he has said he's going to the toilet.

Im fed up to ythe back teeth with him - any suggestions please before i loose it with him

Was the electrical gadget his? i.e. is he the main person who will suffer from its loss? If so that will be punishment enough. Leaving it out is just a mistake, it's not naughtiness like the stealing and misbehaviour at school.

However if he's generally being challenging then removing the TV from his room seems like a good idea.

alarkaspree - yes it was his but i guess its the general lack of respect for all his things that makes it worse.

I have removed everything and he is going to be kept on a very short leash!

ds1 can be very challenging, I find that restricting screen time is even more effective than pocket money bans.

The most effective punishment we ever gave to our dd was to remove everything from her bedroom. The only thing she was left with was furniture. She had to 'earn' her belongings back.