Sticker rewards for 2.5yo?

[sazzerbear]

2.5 yo ds becoming increasingly defiant and difficult, won't help to do anything, morning and bedtime battles etc (not like him). Is it worth introducing sticker reward chart at this stage or is this just part of the terrible twos? tia

sticker chart can be good but its normal boundary pushing behaviour just n4eeds you being consistent and dont let him see its getting to you lots of praise when he does do good however small

not sure what you mean by the wont help to do anything part

thanks, by not helping I mean not helping to tidy up, get ready inc screaming/tantrum etc (quite happy to do what is required at nursery though!)

ds would only help to tidy up at that age if i made it fun by saying lets see who can get all the toys in there quickest and lots of praise

same for anything getting dressed i bet you cant get your trousers on by the time i count to 10 i found i had to make everything a game to get my ds to do anything the more fun it seemed the more he wanted to do it his 4.9 now and is my wonderful little helper and he enjoys it too as we always have fun with it

its an age thing ride it out thats all you can do ignore any bad behaviour praise the good and make anything thats not fun to them fun it does pass

a lot of the time when they get home from nursery they are over tired and you have to bare the brunt of it but again it does pass

thanks bubblagirl, this week's been pretty trying so some useful advice there!!

i have found that i need to be patient when asking for things to be done. if i rush DS just gets upset. if i stay smiley and keep asking we eventually get their, just have to allow 5 times longer than i normally would.

Ah yes, toddler is very differnt to real time!!

I meant toddler time is very different to real time!

Are they meant to help tidy up and do as they are told at this age???! My ds is 2.6 and is a little darling but only wants to do what he wants to do and when... to be honest I don't turn anything into a battle. Only insist on the bare minimum ie getting dressed, brushing his teeth no matter how much he resists and wrestling him into his shoes. Any amount of confrontation and trying to make him do things he really doesn't have to do just makes us both miserable. Agree with moocow and just try and leave as much time for any activity as possible and avoid confrontation at all cost or else you will be feelinglike you're fighting all day long whic his just not worth it at this age, they have plenty of time to outgrow all the negitivity and stubborness, it is annoying though!

I think I've given the wrong impression - of course I don't mean I am expecting him to do everything, just some basic co-operation would be good from time to time!!! Thanks for all the suggestions

Oh I wasn't critisising you sazzer or thinking that you were expecting too much, just was a bit unsure whether my expectations of ds are a bit low actually! I always expect him to argue with everything and be as non-cooperative as possible.... therefore I allow time for this and my day runs smoothly

Ah bless meandjoe, it's been a very long week. His hours at nursery increased last month so I think it's all taking it's toll (more on mummy!!!) I have been very calm today, we have been playing nicely and baking - annabel karmel pineapple muffins [boak] they were rank! Don't know why I bother with all this healthy stuff! He's actually gone for a kip so I am making the most of doing some
important and therapeutic mnetting!

haha I hate all the stuff in Annabel Karmel's book! Hope you enjoyed a bit of a rest and some MNetting! Sounds like things have been a bit hectic with you, can't be easy but unfortunitely toddlers are desingned to disagree with everything and genrally drive you nuts still waiting for my ds to turn into a gentleman but it doesn't seem to be happening .

It's nice to know i'm not alone!