remind me again how to ease spearation anxiety in 2 year old ds.....

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he's going through a very clingy stage, waking up in the night wanting to come into my bed, constantly at my side, crying at new people or clinging to me for dear life in new environments even at playgroups and softplays. He refuses to go with anyone else even dh. If i leave a room where he is present with another adult herun's after me crying. Dh thinks i should put him into nursery as i am a sahm and he's with me all the time. He doesnt really mix with other children either but then he does have an older brother who he plays lovely with. Help any advice ideas do i ride with it or break him out of it like dh says!!!!!!

has he been like this for a while or is this a new thing? is it possible he could be teething. when my 20 month old ds is teething or coming down with something he becomes a clingon. would your dh be happy to have him for a few hours of a night when he comes in from work so he could get him used to being on his own with just dad. i had to do this with my ds. i had to go out sometimes or just sit in another room and do other stuff. he built up a good bond with his dad by doing this and now goes to either of us. good luck

My ds was like this and it is soooo hard. I was also a sahm and I was just his world! It was lovely he loved me do much but so frustrating as it made life hard. He hated play areas, mums groups play dates etc. I think your dh has a point and looking back I should have had some seperation from ds as it would have done us both the world of good. My ds is almost 5 now and still loves me loads :-) but also loves school and playdates etc do they do grow out of it but hard hard hard at the time. Could u try nursery or a childmibder for a couple of mornings? He will prob hate it to begin with, but will do you good, I know that being a sahm can be lonely and you need you time xxx

Ah thankyou for the replies ive definitely been looking and thinking about nurserys. I think one of the main problems is his dad works away during the week so i am literally his world. He used to be fine at playgroups and wander on his own but this last month or so i have to coax him to play with any of the toys at playgroup and he always drags me with him.

My other ds was fine like that and would go off and play but always checked i was still there and would only get upset if i moved. Id be happy to put him into nursery/creche for a few hours a week if it helped. But thats what im unsure of he's obviously very,very scared of losing me so would me putting him a creche increase his anxiety? Ive been making a concious effort to take him to toddlers, soft plays etc this week and encouraging him to go off and play and reassure him im nearby.Im sure its because he's more of aware of things like his daddy going away etc.