help my 20 month old has turned into a monster

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my ds has always been placid and gentle but he has started pinching and biting the last few weeks. i have made the mistake of making a big deal out of it when it first happened and he now thinks it is hilarious when i tell him no. my face is always stern when i tell him no but he just laughs and thinks it a game any advice on how to stop this bad habit he has picked up. he is invited to a 2 years olds birthday party tomorrow but i am too embarrassed to take him in case he starts hurting the other children.

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anyone? his party depends on it

Hello, My Niece was a biter and nothing worked with her - ignoring, telling off, even biting back its was only when i put the tiniest dab of washing up liquid on her tongue after she bit me that she stopped there and then - probably not the best advice in the world, and i'll probably get slated for it but it worked for us , good luck

Who is he pinching and biting?Is it you or other children? I only ask because my ds has recently reached the traumatic twos, and, after at least 5 tantrums, him hitting and shouting, it was with trepidation that I took him to toddler group, whereupon, a woman came up to me to tell me what a little angel he was- offering his biscuit/ teddy bear/ dummy to another child who was upset- seems like he saves the Mr Jekyll stuff especially for me!! maybe your ds is the same, so he might be beautifully behaved at the party tomorrow. if not, just shrug, apologise and remove him! good luck!

he was just pinching and biting me but he has moved on to his nephews who are 3 and 7. thanks for your advice i think i will take him to the party and keep him under close surveylance

He may well surprise you- all three of mine seemed to behave like demons at home, but like angels in nirsery/ in public!! (better than the other way round, I suppose!) It also depends on the other mums- most of my friends were fairly laid back, and as long as the biting child was reprimanded, we all accepted it was just one of those things and didn't mean the biter/ hitter/ pincher was a child of Satan! The only thing mums get a bit antsy about, IME, is when the biter/ hitter/ pincher's mum doesn't take issue with or try to correct her offsprings behaviour, so as long as people see you are not accepting any biting etc, they will be supportive. Don't be too worried- LOADS of kids do it, but few 16 yos go around biting!

imnotbossy boots dont tempt me with that washing up liquid i might just get tempted joolyjoolyjoo thanks for advice. i do try to correct his behaviour when it happens and i make it clear it is not acceptable. i suppose i will just have to wait till he turns 16 then hes responsible for his own actions