DS1 started reception in September and has not coped very well with it at all. We have had lots of problems with hurting other children and generally being too boisterous for the teacher to handle. We are curently getting together a plan to try and manage his behaviour but I think the school are trying to work towards an ASD (not sure myself but will arrange a referral for development check).
Anyway during a meeting yesterday I was told by the teacher he doesnt have any particular friends, Apparently he wants to be friends with 2 other boys and is always trying to break into their circle but ends up just playing alongside them. I knew they were close friends but I had assumed they included him as until yesterday no one had told me otherwise. Now I feel awful to think thats hes friendless and I dont know what to do to help him....
To top it all hes just come out of school now and the 2 boys were setting off on a play date together. DS1 overheard and got really upset saying he wanted to go too - I practically had to drag him out of the playground to stop him running after them. One of the boys mums did see and say dont worry we will have him round another time but in all honesty I'm not entirely convinced either of the boys really wants to play with DS1.
I just feel so down with all of this and just dont know where to go from here.... I basically feel like I'm left with a child nobody likes because hes too aggressive but he's probably getting more angry and problematic because hes being excluded and has no particular friends so I'm in a no win situation. On top of all that I've now got a school thats labelled him before a diagnosis. How did I go from having a happy 4 year old boy to one thats having to deal with all of this....