Agression levels

[lorelilee]

Hi all - looking for a wee bit of advice. DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 15 months. For weeks now, DS1 has regularly been slapping, pushing, nipping and pulling DS2 hair. However, yesterday he punched him full on in the face! When asked why, he replied 'me want to'. Should I be worried? Any suggestions on how to stop him doing it? All advice gratefully received!

My ds's are 2 and 4, I think your two sound normal!

Do you react loudly (hard not to) towards ds1? It sounds obvious but the negative attention is quite powerful. I would try and keep quiet, pick up ds2 and turn away from ds1, go into another room and comfort ds2. If ds1 gets no attention whatsoever it isn't half as much fun hitting his brother. If it makes mum fly over raised voice, lots of attention etc. then it's definitely worth it!

Maybe you already do this, just a thought. I know they are experts at pushing your buttons though. I find it hard to understand how they can hurt each other, it's not something girls naturally want to do.

thanks Jelly, much appreciated. Was thinking I had a future serial killer on my hands! Will try the 'completely ignore him' tack and see how it goes.

How are you getting on?

I like to think they all go though a 'serial killer' phase . Ds2 who is 2, said to me today "I'm going to grow up and be a baddie and get a gun and shoot daddy and shoot you." Before adding, "In a wasp suit." You've got to take it with a pinch of salt I guess!