DD refuses to believe I had parents! Is this common?

[ArcticLemming]

Not a problem, but I'm just curious. My DD is 4, and cannot get hold of the idea I had parents (they both died a long time ago and she never met them). She can accept I was once a child, but says that she used to look after me then . If I show her pictures of me as a baby with my mum she very pointedly ignores them or says it's not me, it's DD2. She also asked me the other day "what were you called when you were little?" She gets that her uncle is my brother, and I think sort of gets that her gran is DHs mum. I just wondered if this was common? She's normally quite good at picking up quite abstract ideas, but seems stuck on this.

My 4 year old dd hates it if we talk about things that happened before she was born .

She also tells me she used to live with another Mummy before she came to me and that when she came to me that was when we all started (her words!).

I think it is just a normal 4 year old thing.

My 2 DC- DD 3 and DS 4 just fall about laughing when I tell them Grandma is mummys mummy-I reckon its quite a complex idea to imagine yr parents as little

DD (4) can understand that her Nana is my Mum but refuses to accept the fact that I never married her father. She's always asking me about my wedding, what dress did I wear, was she there etc. I tell her 50 times a day that I wasn't married, never had a wedding and that not everyone gets married, don't have to be married to have children etc. but she just refuses to believe me!

My parents are divorced and my dad remarried and had 2 more children (now in their 20's).

Whenever I talk about him my DC's accept he is my 1/2 bro and sis's dad but not mine!

Very normal, I think, for this misunderstanding

Thanks - I was curious. None of her friends seem to have a problem thinking about this, but they have grandparents around.

oh it's definitely common

ds1 is almost 5 and only just beginning to understand that Grandma is my mummy.
he still talks about how he was alive then as well

i think it's a really difficult concept for them to grasp

DD is 4.4 and although she appears to understand that Granny and Grandad are my mum and dad and that Granny and Grandpa are DH's mum and dad, she really doesn't .

DS is 6.2 and I think does understand.

DS1 tells me off when I call my Mum 'Mum', as 'she is Nanny, silly!!' and will not accept that she is my Mum but his Nanny, no matter how many times we try and explain!

Although he did recently get confused over DH's younger sister (16 years younger) being DH's sister ie PIL's child and being convinced she was another grandchild of theirs.

he is 4 as well

The 4 year old next door can get that she came out of Mummy's tummy, and the Nana is Mummy's Mummy. But not at all that Mummy came out of Nana's tummy at all!

DH has a very complex step-family and I'm dreading trying to explain that to her! It's difficult enough for an adult.

I find it amusing to tell DD (2.4) that Nanni is my mummy. She tells me that "No, it's my nanni." Even better when my mum tells her that "Little Nanny" (my grandmother) is Nanni's mummy (if you see what I mean). Poor child

My ds2 believed for several years that his teachers lived at school and slept there as night despite the fact that I am teacher.

He had been to my school with me, and to the houses of lots of my teacher friends but still found it very hard to accept!