What do you expect your 7/8 year old to do in preperation for shool each day ?

[Lilyloo]

I am on a slipply slope down the nag / nag route with ds.
This is especially bad in the mornings getting ready for school.
He is the eldest of 3 so i don't know if i am expecting too much of him.
He gets up around 7/7.30 and generally puts the tv on.
This starts my nagging.
Today for example i tell him to get ready then go upstairs to get the girls ready and myself.
Come back down at 8 and he is still dawdling about.
He then decides to get ready and starts grumbling about breakfast at 8.15 , we should leave at 8.20.

AIBU to expect him to get dressed (his clothes are already out)
get his breakfast (he can get cereals himself)
and brush his teeth/have wash ?

oh and DS1 is also now expected to empty the dishwasher as well in the mornings, we get up an hour before they have to leave.

u My DD 7 years gets up around 7.15-

Straight downstairs and have breakfast(which I make along with a cuppa for me) in front of TV.

Comes upstairs to get dressed at about 7.50 (clothes already laid out by me).

Brush teeth/wash face (baths happen at night time).

Downstairs again and I do her hair and she gets her bag ready.

We're out the door by 8.20-8.30.

She can watch TV because she still eats her breakfast and will still come upstairs on time to get ready with no argument(one of the few things she doesn't argue over). If the TV made her slow then I would say no TV. Depends on whether you DS will listen to reason whether you have to ban the TV or not.

Our routine is once eldest DS has gone to school they youngest then gets up. Although he is 10 now from the age of 6 we have expected him to finish his breakfast, go back up stairs, wash his teeth, wash his face and moisturize, get dressed, brush his hair, make his bed put, PJ's away and open blinds. He then has to make sure his bag and lunch are packed. Get his pushbike out and make sure he has got his cycle helmet and gloves. I'm not saying he does this without chiving at times.
Your DS at 8 should be able to do this - no problem with gentle reminders .

No TV in the mornings - only in the school holidays.

Am I the only one who is amazed at Hulababy managing to do bath and hairwash of a school morning?
DD3 is seven. Her routine is
7.30am Shaken awake and uniform put on her bed for her to dress herself. Tells me to go away.
7.45 Shaken awake again, this time with warning of time.
8.00 Down for breakfast. Scowls at sisters, cats and parents.
8.15 Stomps around finding shoes, coat, bag.
8.30 Reluctant departure for school.
8.31 Meets friend and turns into angel child of Sunnyside Street.
I think it's fair to say that she doesn't do mornings.

Thefirstlady. Often DS2 will have a bath and hairwash in the morning. He has ong hair and if I or Dh think he's looking a bit mank he will have to have a bath, especially if he only had a quick shower night before.

oh I could do a bath and hairwash in the morning - but we've always done it of a nightime so we stick to that.

Dcs are 5 and 6.

7.30 whole family up and eveyone dresses themselves.

7.45 downstairs for breakfast

8.10 breakfast finished - teeth brushed and whatever they like. I get bags, coats etc ready

8.30 leave house

Key in our house is everyone doing things at the same time so there is no room for any single person to get lost in lala land.

I'd rather disembowel myself with a icecream scoop than attempt to wash DD3's hair on a school morning.

Up by 7.30, breakfast , dress, face and teeth at 7.45, pack bag , leave for school 8.10ish.

ds, nearly 6 , gets up anytime between 6.30am and 7.30am
gets his unirform on first
comes down for breakfast
we keep one toothbrush downstairs and one upstairs so he cleans his teeth at the kitchen table
then he watches Milkshakes until we leave at 8.30am - that way I can have a bath etc without having to yell at him and little sister to stop fighting

Oh God - not enough ! DD1 is just 7, and I still get her dressed most mornings . She is NOT a morning person!

I have 4dcs, I get up at 7ish and the older three will get up between 7 and 7.30 (toddler usually wakes during this time as well). Older 3, ages 8 - 11, must get themselves dressed, make cold breakfast while I organise the cooked items, pack thier own bags once I have finished lunchboxes. DC1 leaves at 8 and until 8.30 the others play, have spelling tests, do their reading and during that time I dress DC4 and we leave the house between 8.30 and 8.40.DCs must brush their teeth, get bikes and helmets ready and shoes/coats on.
TV is banned although I do allow the wii on occasions if everyone is ready early.
This has been the routine since DC1 started school and it works pretty well on the whole although there are days when a lot of shouting is also required but thankfully not too many.

firstlady

Right tom ds knows he is to be dressed and had wash / teeth brushed (not sure about this before breakfast)
And no tv until breakfast has been eaten.
Not sure about doing it 'together' as think dd1 and ds would kill one another whilst i was getting ready.

Thanks all will let you know how we get on.

How did it go this morning, Lilyloo?
DD3 was still awake at 10.30pm last night and consequently even grumpier this morning. Magically, however, she was all smiles as soon as we got outside the house and met up with her friend.

The firstlady... I love the personaility transplants that kids seem to undertake from hating the world to becoming a beam of sunshine when they see their mates! It's hysterical.

Forgot dp had day off today so back to routine from tom , fingers crossed!!

My DDs are 6 and 3.

They are both expected to...

Get up
Eat Breakfast (but not to get it themselves)
Return their cup and bowl to the kitchen when finished.
Make their beds (Duvets, so not hard)
Get dressed
Clean Teeth (6 year old only - 3 year old has her teeth cleaned for her).

They are not allowed the TV on, or to play with toys until they are ready for school.

Lol @ 'disembowel myself with an ice-cream scoop'

It's def best to get dressed before you come downstairs it saves time and then you're halfway there to being ready to get out the door.

my ds is 8 next week - we also have dd1 (10) and dd2 (6).

They get up at 7.10, have breakfast (which they get for themselves, including dd1 making herself a cup of tea some mornings), clean teeth and get washed, dress in school uniform, brush hair (dd1 ahd ds do this themselves, dd2 needs help), pack schoolbags (eg PE kit), while I make lunch and generally chivvy.

So they pretty much get themselves ready. They leave at 8.00 on the dot to get the bus at 8.05, they walk the 5 mins to the bus stop on their own, it doesn't involve any roads etc.

One morning when I had a horrible migraine, dd1 got everyone's lunch ready too (dh was working overnight).

Self sufficient children are the way to go!!

Thanks all much much better day today.
I think i felt less stressed when he came down dressed so didn't mind if he dawdled through breakfast.
Managed to get him organised much easier as Friday he has two after school clubs so has a lot to sort.
Ironically dd as the one playing up this morning but you can't have everything eh

I think my DD is a daudler. She is 8 in April.

However, she does get up and dressed, and has breakfast. She needs help with her hair, so will co-opt the nearest passing by sibling.

She knows which days she needs her PE kit and music folder, and when her library book is due. However, these items are often lost, so we have a mad panic at 8pm the previous evening which can extend into the morning.

Sometimes she forgets to have breakfast so has to have it at school.

our morning routine (re ds1 - 7yo, yr2)

8am: If he isn't already awake I wake him up
Ask him to get dressed - he does
Downstairs for breakfast - I make
8.25am: Ask him to clean teeth - he does
8.30am: Ask him to put shoes and coat on - he does
8.35am: Out the door

(times obviously approx!)

I also have a 4yo who I ask to do the same, he cries that he can't and I help with the things that ds1 just does when I ask him.

I get up about 7.20am and shower etc, so am dressed and ready by 8am when I wake ds1. ds2 is almost always awake and watched tv in my bed while I am getting ready.
While the ds's are eating breakfast I put together ds1's lunch box, ds2's pre-school snack, eat my breakfast and do chores if needed - put washing machine on, hang washing up, put rubbish out, put dishwasher on etc.

Then out the door, drive to school, drop ds2 with childminder at school to take to pre-school and I go to work to get there for 9am.

and breathe....

I'm surprised at the number of people who get the children dressed before coming down.

We have always been opposite. Have breakfast first. That way they don't spill breakfast over their uniform and then when they clean their teeth after eating we don't have any incidents with toothpaste down their jumper!!