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9mths-2 stone help please

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 16:15

hi everyone i hope you can help. my friend has a 9 month old daughter and she weighs 2 stone. i checked this out in my sons red book and shes off the chart, she is really sensitive about things so not sure how to aproach the situation.

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brettgirl2 · 26/01/2010 16:17

Well surely this has been picked up by a HV? I'm sure the mum is well aware that she's on the big side.

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 16:22

mum has never taken her to a health visitor or baby clinics etc. she weened her before 3 months and seems to think that the more baby does or eats the better developed she is. lo chokes often as mum thinks she can eat huge lumps of meat.

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Fruitysunshine · 26/01/2010 16:23

Perhaps she knows something about her daughter's health that you don't. I take it you have mentioned this to her if you have started a thread about it...?

twolittlemonkeys · 26/01/2010 16:24

Yikes, my 3 year old weighs 2 stone! Does she actively avoid HV because of comments about her little one's size or is it just that she can't be bothered?

Fruitysunshine · 26/01/2010 16:24

You must spend a lot of time with your friend?

messygarden · 26/01/2010 16:27

I wouldn't approach your friend.

She will have to visit GP etc for things such as:

-vaccinations (next at 12m I think)
-chest infections/other common illnesses

so health professionals will be able to see the situation soon

paisleyleaf · 26/01/2010 16:30

It's so easy for children to avoid seeing health professionals now.
I don't know what to suggest.

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 16:30

im genuinely worried lo seems happy and healthy though so thats great, they are a lovely litlle family, im certainly not here to bitch! was hoping to hear from someone who says that their lo is the same and everything is fine. hoping to get little ones in the kitchen cooking some really yummy food,

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belgo · 26/01/2010 16:33

How do you know the baby's weight? How does your friend know the baby's weight if they never go to the health visitor?

I do understand why you are concerned. Some babies are naturally very big.

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 16:36

its only aprox from home scales. maybe you're right brett maybe thats why she weighed her, maybe shes worried too. i dont claim to have the answers i just want to help her if she needs it without upsetting her

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Lulumama · 26/01/2010 16:36

if this girl has not seen a HV, then you are guessing at the weight, but weaning before 3 months is definitely not something that is receommended as a usual course of action..

a very fat baby who has been fed the wrong things too early may well have more chnace of being an obese child and an obese child is far far far more likely to be an obese adult

the only saving grace is taht nce the baby is mobile, the weight might drop off,but she might always be a big baby, but 2 stone at 9 months is heavy

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 16:39

im not guessing, it is aprox, i wasnt there. suppose its a great thing that she is moving about loads in fact nearly walking so maybe it will even itself out. hope so

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belgo · 26/01/2010 16:53

Do you know if all the babies in her family are big?

Lulumama · 26/01/2010 16:58

i think it is more relevant and important what the baby is being fed, i know some enormous off the scale babies who have been exclusively breastfed but are really big.

however a baby how is big due to being weaned early, and then fed too much of high fat, high salt food rather than more appropriate foods, is a different thing to a baby who is big because everyone in their family is big and tall and well built

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 16:59

i dont know of any, but her eldest child is a fair size,certainly not large though. sorry forgot to mention him. i do wonder if its a confidence thing. eldest has a different dad and the whole thing shook her. we spend a few hours a week together although she doesnt really let anyone in on the emotional front. not seeing her for 3 weeks now. maybe i will suggest lots of activities and recipes etc. does anyone know how the red and blue books differ in weight? dont suppose its much

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belgo · 26/01/2010 17:11

I would probably tell her that the health visitor can give her advice regarding diet if she is worried. I think I would find it hard not to say anything, if you really think she doesn't know that there could be a problem.

MunchMummy · 26/01/2010 17:17

At my DD2's 1yr weigh in she weighed 2 stone!! Fat little thing she was. Way off the charts for weight (and 98% for height)
But she was also weighed by the HVs at baby weigh in every 2-3 weeks, so they were well aware of her size. All they said to me was don't worry, and 'she enjoys her food doesn't she'. They knew I wasn't feeding her crap, she was just a big baby.
She started crawling at 10.5 months and the weight stopped going on. She is now 19 months and still weighs 2 stone!! Hasn't put a thing on this year. The only toddler to drop from clothes size 4-5 years to 18-24 months.
She is now thinning out nicely and the only difference between her and others her age is that she is noticably a bit bigger (size of other 24 month olds) .

I wouldn't worry about your friend, the weight will stagnate when the LO gets moving around.

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 17:25

which she has already started to, thanks munchmummy that really does set my mind at ease to hear that it might not be a real problem.

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fernie3 · 26/01/2010 18:20

my baby is 11 months and 24 pounds. My son was the same but once he got past about 18 months he suddenly stopped gaining weight - he is quite a slender 3 year old now!.

belgo · 26/01/2010 18:28

It's not just the weight though that could be a problem it sounds like she might not be feeding the baby appropriate foods, if I've understood pinchmeimustbedreaming correctly.

madwomanintheattic · 26/01/2010 18:38

ach - ds1 was 16lbs at 11 weeks - i stopped weighing him after that as he was so obviously putting mucho weight on despite being exc bf. he walked early too.

tbh i would have started a thread about the choking, rather than the weight. much more relevant. ds1 is a skinny 8yo now - he had rolls on his rolls at 9mos.

ShowOfHands · 26/01/2010 18:41

The weight and appropriate foods thing are separate.

My exclusively bfed baby was 24lbs at 24 weeks so probably nearer 2 stones at 9 months. Difference was she was exclusively bfed, off the charts for weight and height and fed a very healthy diet from 27 weeks when she had her first solids. At 2.8, she actually only weighs around 35lbs, so her weight gain has slowed right down and she is slim, tall and very healthy.

BobbyTheBird · 26/01/2010 18:43

My DD was nearly 10lb at birth and was definately over 2 stones by 9/10 months.

She is 11 now and very slender for her age.

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 26/01/2010 18:47

to be honest i dont think she is fed the right foods BELGO but of course i dont see everything. i was horrified to see big chunks of meat being fed to her at only 6 months that would be too big for me. its hard though to speak up about it when she could be really struggling with being a mummy, dont want to push it.

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belgo · 26/01/2010 18:56

It is hard but sometimes you ahve to say something if you really feel if there is a problem.

I recently told my friend not to give her 9 month old coffee or alcohol, not even sips. I couldn't not say anything, but that was very clear; with your friend it's a bit less clear.

The big pieces of meat could be baby led weaning when the baby holds on to the meat and chews it.