Sleepover advice needed

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DD had a sleepover last night with just one friend. This is not her first friend she has had friends stay over in the past. Anyway they were still up at nearly 3am . What is the norm for a sleepover. I am horrified at this. When I was younger our challenge was to make it to midnight. Am I just old>>

How old is she?

She will be 9 next week.,

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Wow this is like, very late!

My dd1, who is 10 ina fortnight, had a sleepover last weekend with 2 friends and they were all asleep by 11. THis is late for dd1, but typical for a sleepover at our house.

If I thought dd1 woudl stay up this late at someone elses house, or here on a sleepover, it wouldn't be happening!

Yeah thats what I thought. DH told them to go to sleep at midnight when he came to bed, they woke me up about 230am and I went in and threatened to seperate them, I didnt hear them after that. DD is 9 soon and wants a sleepover for her birthday but she has been warned that there will NOT be a repeat of last night they will go to sleep when they are told to or they will be seperated. I dont want to be the 'moany mum' but I did think this was rediculous. I just wanted confirmation that I am not being an old fuddy duddy overprotecive mum.

Very late.

Next time, move the clocks forward 2 hours then tell them they can stay up til 11/midnight

ha i like that surgestion

That is super late- staying awake is an extreme sport for some kids!

I always give a midnight feast at about 9pm, then lie about the time and tell them to go to sleep. I know you shouldn't lie to kids but it has worked so far.

3 is pretty impressive for 8 yr olds! Doesn't really matter though does it? That's the fun of a sleepover.

All the sleepovers I have hosted have gone on until midnight when they suddenly conk out, but I'm talking 5 and 6 yr olds, I expect by the time they are 8 or 9 they will be pushing the limits of sleep deprivation further lol

But does it really matter as long as they are not keeping others awake with their niose? A few sleepless nights won't cause long-term damage.

I would have just gone to sleep and left them to it.

What do you think will happen to them if tey are awake til 3 in the morning once in a blue moon?

I know what happens to my dd if she's up even till 10. She becomes a different child. We saw evidence of this yesterday. Moany, whiney and generally horrible. The last sleepover she had her and her friend were awake at 1am, I said enough was enough and made my dd sleep with me.

I wouldn't thank a parent who had sent my child back to me after such a late night !

I don't think that's acceptable, having such a late night spoils the next day for the kids as they are feeling tired and irritable.
I would be angry if another parent allowed my 9 yo to stay up this late.
When my daughter has a friend over the very latest is 10.30-11, or no more sleep overs. She knows the rule and she sticks by it.

Hi DD has been warned on penalty of no more sleepovers that this is not to happen again. I appreciate that it doesnt do the kids any harm once in a while but I know what dd is like if she doesnt get enough sleep (even tho she doesnt need sleep IYSWIM) and I wouldnt like to think I was upsetting the other parents by sending their kids back in this state.