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Incessant talking - all day

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engelbart · 23/01/2010 10:18

Is this normal in a 4 year old? My dd doesn't stop talking from the moment she wakes up til the moment she goes to bed, so that's about 12.5 hours of continual talking a day. I love her dearly but I'm finding all the talking exhausting. She (obviously) wants me to respond to all her talking and questions so I can't even tune it out, and believe me I've tried!

I've tried encouraging her to have 'quiet time' ie we'll do a jigsaw or drawing together but the talking still never stops!

People keep telling me that girls always talk more than boys and while I think its great shes so good at talking it would be nice to spend some time with her without having the constant chattering!

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Caz10 · 26/01/2010 20:53

Laughing at this, and quaking in my boots slightly as dd is only 2, speech is coming on leaps and bounds and she will not stop!! TV also just provides her with something else to give a commentary on.

babieseverywhere we can send our dds out on poo patrol together, mine does this too. "oh a poo", "oh a other poo" "oh a big poo" "oh a doggy poo" "OH...wassat???" (Me - sigh - "it's a poo".....)

Horton · 26/01/2010 20:56

Hahaha re the poo, Babieseverywhere. DD is in a poo-obsessed stage so nearly everything that comes out of her mouth involves poo or a bottom. We live in London but even walking to Sainsburys means I am subjected to a monologue about dogs' poo and why didn't the dog owner clear it up and why don't dogs have loos and if a dog had a loo would his BOTTOM go right down in the loo and touch the water and are BOTTOMS of dogs bigger or smaller than BOTTOMS of persons and why don't you like talking about POO, Mummy, why not, I like POO and I like WEES as well.

Cue uncontrollable giggles as she contemplates BOTTOMS and WEES and POOS all at the same time.

Sigh.

megapixels · 26/01/2010 20:59

Oh my God I'm so glad I saw this thread. Both my dds are like this, they are 3 and 7! The talking is non-stop, they don't even seem to pause to draw breath. It's so tiring, at the end of the day when they're asleep it feels like the delicious sort of silence that falls when some very loud blasting rock music or something has been turned off after hours. Feel like my head will explode sometimes, it's impossible to even think. I have to be cautious about entering a room one of them is in because it's impossible to go out, they'll start up some conversation and go on and on and on and on and on and on. I have to back out very slowly, and run off as soon as a sentence is coming to an end.

They are very good girls, but the constant talking is killing me.

Sorry, went on a bit there .

crankytwanky · 26/01/2010 21:01

Aw, it's lovely really.
Well, it's lovely when I'm upstairs and I can hear DD chatting away to DH.

DD is now nearly 8, and I miss it. It's mostly whinging now, so I'm having to learn to tune out of a whole different noise.

Babieseverywhere · 26/01/2010 21:02

Horton, LOL, Glad I am not the only one with a 'poo' child

I also have a nice silent 17 month old but that is because he can't get a word in. I think this is why he insists on getting up again in the evening, so he gets talk to babble at mummy with no poo talk to compete with...sighs

Horton · 26/01/2010 21:09

Heh, poor DS, Babieseverywhere. Still, no doubt soon you will be listening to the poo talk in stereo!

Really hoping that if I am lucky enough to have another DC, DD will have grown out of the POOBOTTOMWEE stage before he or she grows into it. Please someone tell me that might be a possibility.

I also get that delicious silence feeling like my ears are almost ringing with it, megapixels.

And I am very lucky, really, DD is as good as she possibly could be at her age but the constant talk is so wearing. When do they grow out of the POO stage? I think it might be less awful when the subject matter improves.

megapixels · 26/01/2010 21:09

Oh we also cannot hear the TV while they're awake, we lip read. It is impossible to hear, however loud you turn up the volume. The girls' voices aren't loud, just high. Like two bells ringing all day .

Horton · 26/01/2010 21:10

Also, this

"I have to be cautious about entering a room one of them is in because it's impossible to go out"

made me laugh and laugh. That is exactly how I feel!

maxpower · 26/01/2010 21:11

Not read all the posts but just from reading the thread title I would have bet money you had a DD! Mine is exactly the same. We'll probably be lamenting that they never talk to us by the time they're teenagers, so make the most of it.

minxofmancunia · 26/01/2010 21:15

dd 3.5 hasn't stopped talking since she was able to, prob sice about 18m. Non stop, when she plays alone (which is rare)she chatters to herself, or makes up songs, talks in her sleep.

Only thing that gives me any peace is tv pref a dvd of a film she likes, she watches lots of dvds .

We're such a miss match, I'm v quiet and love and crave being on my own, she's the polar opposite, cue some v long days for me!

I also have to give full and considered answers to her questions/statments I can't just say mmm I get "don't say mmm Mummy!" so i have to actively listen at all times. now ds (18 weeks) is here she talks to him incessantly, doesn't seem to mind he's a baby and can't answer back, he grins away at her so it suits them both!

Effjay · 26/01/2010 21:21

I can't shut my DS up. He talks non-stop all day and I too find it exhausting. I got a bit irritated by it all when I was driving the car yesterday and he said "I'm not shouting at you, I'm just trying to calm you down!". I've never said that to him; must have come from nursery

Triggles · 27/01/2010 06:19

as far as girls are concerned, the talking continues... at least it did in our house! only the subject matter changes. Whereas before it was poo and dogs and cats (and whatever else was in her line of vision as a toddler), as the years progress the subjects move to school (as in every little minute portion of the day), other girls, then makeup, pop music, and boys... and there's that interesting preteen time where they are either talking or crying

I am currently trying to teach our 3yo how to talk in a whisper. It's not going well. No matter how I suggested talking quietly or whispering (doing it myself as well), he very happily shouted "ok let's whisper!" I could deal with the talking better if the volume wasn't turned all the way up sometimes!

TiredEars · 02/04/2020 15:43

Yes! My daughter is 5.5 and has NOT stopped talking since she was 2 ish when she began. We adopted her at 16 months and she didnt make a sound....we used sign language for things she wanted. Food. Milk.
Then just after 2 years old she BLOSSOMED in every way. Certainly a good thing.
We are 58 years old, and were on our own for years with peace and quiet so we could think. Gone.
BUT, it really is out of hand...when she is rattling on and on....you cannot get her to pause...when you are speaking to her she jumps in and starts on a tangent.
We have always taught, not to interrupt but it hasn't stuck. It's a problem at school, PreK.
She INSISTS on constantly speaking or making noise, and she's LOUD. She's extremely happy. But Y'all! My nerves and ears are shot.

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