Anyone Been in my Boat?

[MissWooWoo]

it seems no-one in "chat" has

clingy child and nursery

would dearly love to hear from someone, anyone who's had similar experiences, esp with good outcomes but I'll take what's going

Has her key worker suggested anything to help with the transition? A distraction for her? Like can she help with setting up an activity/feed the fish/water the plants or something special that is her own little job as soon as she gets there? If her first few moments there are positive and exciting for her, this might lead on to her being more positive about the remainder of the session IYSWIM?

She will settle, eventually. But there are things the nursery staff can do to help move it along and make the whole experience more pleasant for everyone.

some good ideas but unfotunately dd goes to the afternoon session so when they arrive it's story time because people are coming and going .... she's not for sitting down quiety either so that probably doesn't help!

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Hmmm, could she bring a story book from home to read at story time as a special treat?

Ooops hit send instead of return LOL...

I think nursery need to make a few concessions for her just for a few sessions til she feels happier/more comfortable there. It doesn't need to impinge on the other children IYSWIM, just make the first few minutes of your DDs session a more exciting prospect for her.

she's not back again until next week now but I can definately talk to her keyworker about it. I'm not sure that they will let her do anything special though, I mean, won't the other kids feel left out?

I agree with newborn nanny, it's not your dd's fault she needs a bit of extra time. It's horrible I know, I had it with DD1, makes you feel like crap even though it's not your fault.
She started school at 3 and is quite happy to go now, merrily skips in without a backward glance!
If it helps my DD2 will quite happily wave me off and go anywhere and has done since she was teeny, so I am sure it's nature not nuture.

The issue here is your DD needs to have a little more time/effort devoted to her than the other kids who are already settled. The other kids won't feel left out if your DD's keyworker allows her to bring a book in 3 times in a row, the other children needn't even really be made aware it's your DD's book. But your DD will know, and will feel special, and this will ease her anxiety and allow her to feel more comfortable there. Speak to her keyworker, she'll have had this issue before and will have ideas too on how to help your DD settle in.

My DS1 also started nursery last week age 2.11. His is a morning session, but it's also coincided with me going back to work (DS2 arrived in July) so there is a lot of change going on in his little world. I only got to leave him in on his first day, and our nanny has been dropping him off/collecting him since. He was great on the first two days, spending an hour on his own there. On the third day there were tears and the forth he cried all the way there. Crushing for all of us. Any way we gave him Friday off and started again on Monday. Again there were a couple of tears but an improvement. On Tuesday nanny packed him a lunch box to carry fruit in which gave him a real sense of purpose and he was fine, no tears. Today she did the same, and again he was fine. Obviously these things take a little time, but speak to her key worker as others have mentioned. She should be able to come up with a strategy for you too.