Little boys, dirty underpants and arse wiping. ARGH!!!!!!

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(sigh) The title says it all. The technique of wiping one's little bum so there's no poop on the underpants is clearly not there yet, despite all of my chats. He is very embarassed, changes them daily, bathes every couple of days but I do occasionally find them in really obscure places (behind the toilet etc). How do I approach the subject without him getting the huff? Any ideas?

Thankyou.

DH or DS?

10 year old ds.

how old is boy?

get wet wipe loo paper

ahh cornish silk beat me to that thought. the other thought was yep- i can relate to that. have you at least cracked the toilet seat issue?

Would he go back to using a moist wipe type thing to improve, and it might be a stupid question is he sitting long enough to finish properally (and thats whilst focusing on task not prattin about flooding the bathroom etc

Will they encourage him to wipe properly? We do have some, he doesn't use them, I don't even think he uses the loo roll from the state of some of his undies. (barf)

He sits and reads on the toilet, he averages half an hour unless I nag! Plenty of time WCTR. He sits on the toilet so no dribble, he just sits and reads (sigh). I dispair, poor lad, can't be nice when he's changing for swimming.

Actually that could be the problem. because he is reading he is not focusing on the task so might not be finishing the job properally before getting off. I would ban him from taking reading material in until he can wipe his bum properally and see what happens.

ds finds the wet paper easier as it cleans more easily and it is very obvious when it is not done. However ds is nearly 5 and likes to walk round with a wet wipe stuck out of his arse like a tail so might not be the best example of what works.

Lol!

Thankyou, I shall remove all literature from the bathroom, maybe replace it with a poster, some wet wipes and some tissue and see how it goes. It will be really easy to monitor. I have tried to talk to him, offer advice etc, he gets really embarassed and starts to get really upset so we don't really get anywhere. I'm getting sick of finding hidden dirty underpants over the house.

If it doesnt work YOu could threat a trip to the docs if it doesnt seem to improve and he is reluctant to talk. mutter about medical problems and internal exams. that should sort him out if he is being lazy, he might even prefer to talk to you rather then the doc. would be progress if a little meandrastic.

I've tried the doctors threat, dirty bums cause sore bums and all that. I just don't want to see him getting teased for being smelly, he does honk sometimes

If you have made the threat have you actually taken him? ds had to learn the hard way that what mummy says goes. he has only ever once ended up at nursery in pj's There can be a medical cause to this and a GP would be able to help and maybe direct you to a specialist who can help your ds to sort this.

Grand father had an issue like this and i think supositories were used as it was a sort of constipation. I would personally try the no reading material wipes thing give it a week to 2 weeks and go to the gp. make sure ds knows that you are concerned about him not cross and that if it cant be sorted out then he has to go to the doctor who will be able to help.

An off to bed. good luck.

It wasn't really a threat, more of a "if you don't clean it properly your bum will become really sore and I'll have to take you to the doctor". I think he's in too much of a rush and doesn't see it as important. He's not constipated, he goes quite regularly as far as I am aware. I don't shout at him, I rarely shout anyway. I'll try the wipes.

Thankyou.

Erm tmi but you can poo regularly but still be constipated -its to do with not all poo coming out that should

Maybe. He eats fruit but hardly any veg, isn't a fan of wholemeal bread but has said he'll try. I don't think he drinks enough though so he could be a bit bunged up.

Thankyou.

Another problem with sitting on the toilet reading is that, by the time you get round to wiping your bum, the poo's all dried on and next to impossible to get off with a dry bit of toilet paper. After a bit of sweaty running around, though, it will all come out beautifully in the underpants!

My only other thought is: is the problem definitely bottom wiping and not leakage??? The latter could indicate a problem with constipation (or an inability to tell the difference between poo and farts!!!!!).

my 7 year old is similar. In his case it is catch 22 - he doesn't wipe properly so it gets sore, then it is sore so he doesn't want to wipe it, so it gets more sore.

We have had a few sessions of him screaming loudly while I try to clean it and apply cream to soothe it. I would have thought that would teach him to not let it get to that stage - but sadly he seems to forget about the consequences and the whole cycle starts again.

My only suggestion would be to make him have a bath to make sure any residue is soaked off (yuk !) every day.

And why do they think you won't find them if they hid them behind wherever ?!

Mine also hates flushing the toilet (never worked out why) and uses masses of paper and often manages to block it. I think maybe he thinks if he uses lots of paper it will magically clean his bum without him having to do it properly.

Not much help - but a bit of solidarity at least