How do you discuss behaviour with a friend?

[difficultone]

I think my friends DS has behavioural problems something along the lines ADHD. He is only 3 but is very agressive and almost manic a lot of the time. My children are getting hurt by him and he is so volatile it is hard to relax when he is around.

I have not said anything to her although I think she is concerned about his behaviour too. Is there a way to say something politely without risking our friendship?

WWYD in this situation?

Hi, I am in a similar situation to you, although the child I know is older, 7. It is really difficult and I know the mum is aware of the problem of him being disruptive and at school I think has been mentioned. It is so hard to talk to her about what might be causing it and also the discipline he gets is not consistent, so I think that is another factor. Would it be worth saying to the friend about her son being very lively and had she considered ADHD and talking to her GP about it. I do sympathise though and really get on with the mum but I have to think of my children and the affects this child has on them. Goodluck and hope to hear how you get on.

If you think she is concerned aswell just spit it out. She's probably really worried and doesn't know where to go or what to do. Just tell her that you think she's doing a cracking job but you have noticed that her little one seems to not behave the way that other children do and has she thought off approaching the GP for some guidance?

Thesecondcoming he does all the Kung Fu kicking too and grabbing at faces etc. Sometimes she indicates she's worried but more often she just puts it down to him being a boy. She has even suggested my son is not normal because he doesn't do these things.

Unfortunately it means we are spending less time with them because I dread the havoc he causes.

I don't think I can just come out and say it, however nicely, I guess I am hoping that she might open the conversation and I can support her but in reality that's not going to happen I don't think. Am I being a wus?

Littleworrywart he is due to start pre school soon and I wonder if they will speak to his mum if he behaves like this there?