I am having a really hard time with my DDs at the moment, wondered if anyone had any suggestions on how to deal with their tantrums. DD1 is 4 in May and DD2 is 2 in Feb. If they don't want to/do want to/can't/shouldn't etc. do something they both scream, together or individually. It does my head in, and I seem to be rapidly turning into shouty mum in response.
I find it hardest trying to get us all out of the house, DD1 is very uncooperative, resorts to crying and whining a lot, or outright screaming. I have to ask her over and over again to do anything. DD2 is a little easier to get in a coat and hat but she really kicks off if I try to put her in the buggy, or if I let her walk but not push the buggy (she can't do it!). All the usual head-strong 2 year old stuff... DD1 doesn't want to walk once we are out a lot of the time which causes crying/screaming/tantrum. All the while DD2 is likely to be screaming in buggy. Why do I bother?! (I have tried swapping over, leads to different problems.) And when we do get somewhere (library, friends) there are tantrums from DD1 because she doesn't want to leave - maybe to keep things even 'cos she tantrumed because she didn't want to go in first place?
They also fight a lot over toys etc. In fact anything that the other has. And are very competitive for my attention. I am often being clambered over by both of them. They are both complete angels 1:1, and of course have moments of harmony with each other, which are adorable.
All this fraction is high volume and stress inducing. Please has anyone got any tips on how to best cope? Anyone got any ideas where I am going wrong?
Thank you.