First time mum questions...help needed

[girlylala0807]

Morning all,

Ds is 9mo now. He is coming along fine, crawling, playing and destroying our house .

So, im a little bit concerned that he seems to bump his head alot. He cries for a few seconds then just gets on with it again. Is this normal. When should I worry he will really damage himself?

Also, my mum said I give him to much freedom and this will come back on me. I play with him lots but sometimes let him get on with it for a while. He pulls out dvd's and tries to pull himself up. I let him but mum said to me he will become a terror! Is this an over-reaction on her part?

Lastly, if he cries in his high chair, I take him out and feed him on my knee or we both sit on the floor. Will this read to problems later?

Thanks if you read through all that!

It sounds like you're doing great, he's still a baby. Picking your battles, which is what you're doing is a good philosophy for babies and toddlers unles you want all day power struggles. So, if you're happy to let him pull out all the DVDs at your house, then great. He's not doing any harm, just exploring.

Hiya,

Don't know how much help I'll be as I'm also a first time mum with DD 8 months. Just to say, she bangs her head a lot too and generally reacts like your DS. I think crying straight away is a good sign, if they have a bad fall and then go quiet before crying that can mean they've become unconscious. I generally like to think they're pretty tough but times to worry are if they do fall unconscious, if they fall from a place higher than their own body height, if there's a 'boggy swelling' at place of impact (have no idea what a boggy swelling feels like, but read it in a book!)

Also, I also let her pull books off shelves, pull herself up and feed her on my knee if she's upset in high chair. Perhaps your mum is right but I'm not sure how many 'bad habits' they pick up at this stage. Just my opinion again but I recki=on my DD is just going through a natural stage of exploring the world around her, learning hand-eye coordination and cause and effect. She's too young to understand it's 'naughty' yet. WIth the highchair thing - I think it's really important that she enjoys food and it doesn't turn into a battle.

Just to say that DS1 had about two weeks of pulling the DVDs out when he was around that age, now he hardly ever touches them. I was not keen to put everything away (unless dangerous, expensive or breakable!) as I think it's nice to have things out.
I agree that it's good to let him play by himself too, otherwise you will be expected to be a constant source of entertainment and will find it hard to get jobs done! I think your mum is over-reacting. I wouldn't worry about the highchair issue at this age either, more important that he eats, as previous poster said 'pick your battles.'

Great stuff,

Im glad this all seems to be normal. I will just carry on as I am then.

Thanks

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