How do I respond to dd's tantrums?

[Oneandnomore]

Dd is 4.9. She started reception in September, so I realise that this has a lot to do with the tantrums, but I am at a loss how to deal with her. I am talking serious staying power, last night she was at it for two hours over a stair gate I sold to a friend.

Then today we had full scale crying this morning, she said she was tired and wanted to go back to bed. I felt like the world's worst mum making her get dressed. She was really sobbing

I run through her day each morning, ie, school, whether it's her dad or me or the childminder collecting her from school etc.

I have spoken to her, she knows that this behaviour doesn't get her anywhere.

Sorry this is long, I just don't know what to try next.

it might just be while she is getting used to school, being tired from long days and that kind of thing?
ds1 is similar, he started reception in sept too, and it's very draining

Is she tired? It really could be that. How long does she sleep for at night?

She sleeps for 12-13 hours. Am concerned that she is sleeping for so long and still tired in the morning. She was sobbing to go back to bed this morning.

It's so hard to tell, isn't it?

That does seem a lot for her then to be always saying she's tired and getting upset about it. I suppose you could get her a check up to rule out anything physical - anaemia can make you tired, for example

could also be getting used to the new routine, being unsettled, but if you rule out anything physical then you know what you're dealing with.

Thanks heQet. I will get her checked out. She is generally easy going but maybe school has been tougher for her than we realise.