help please - suspected ADHD no one will listen!!

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I need advise desperatley as i am losing my rag with the health sector.
For the last 2 years i have been trying to get help with my daughter as i fear she has ADHD or possibly Aspergis. No one seems to take this seriously and i desperatly need help as i can no longer cope with her behaviour and my son has CP and Global DD. I could list the things that she does but i would be here all day. She is good at school although her academic is much better at home than in school and the teachers are telling me she can't do this and she can't do that and yet she is perfectly capable and able to do these things at home and with others in the family which makes me feel like a liar but i am not. She is totally off the rails and never listens, she has no fear and just doesnt care about anything, she is violent and abusive towards me and others, her temper is out of control and she never stops from when she gets up till bedtime and this is getting much worse and she isn't 5 for another month. Why wont people listen!! Please help.

what do i do till September when there is a chance that she will be seen at the clinic? I am pulling my hair out and losing my rag very easily as this is hard for me and her as her daily school routine has gone and i can't offer as much structure and stimulation as the school do as i have 2 to look after and deal with. Any sites that anyone could reccomend or any ideas would be greatly appreciated.I don't want the holidays turning into a nightmare!! But i can't afford to go out all the time. We go to the lakes 3 times a week at the mo but the diesel is costing a bomb and she is starting to really distract me when i am driving, but when we get there i let her run wild to let off all the steam and energy that she has but she seems to be getting bored of these days out and it's only week 2!!

things are getting worse with her at the mo and desperatly need some advise on how to cope with her irratic behaviour. Finding it really difficult to keep her under control and remain sane enough to go out and do things.!!! She cant be trusted when we go out as she permanently runs away or screams and shouts at me.

What a day, chloe is driving me round the twist as its her birhday tomorrow and she wont calm down. I've got allsorts to do including wrapping presents, doing the party food etc...... And after tomorrow the bribe has gone out of the window, not that it worked that much anyway!!! I wish they would hurry up and get me an appointment for her. Until then i'm on my own trying to deal with her!!