What age do tantrums start??

[ChocOrange05]

What do you think?

And by tantrums I mean wanting something, being told no and then crying as if the world were ending??

And until what age should you try and placate them and when should you start to ignore it?

Just wondering!

ha ha choc. at 12 mths we had foot stamping. now at 14 mths, we have crying as you describe.
I commented to nursery that I don't remmeber it starting this early with ds1, but there you go !

mine started at 17 months. i want my nice little baby back instead of my monster

DS is 14 months and I think he knows. I mean its actually quite comical: crying so big far tears roll down his cheeks, throwing himself on the floor and rolling about whilst looking at me with these puppy dog eyes that say "why mummy, why"??

And its all because he's a greedy little monster - give him breast, banana, biscuits, raisins and he'd be fine but I don't want a big porker!!

Bah - anyone want to swap

(PS - he's perfect with everyone else!!)

1st about 8 months, 2nd & 3rd about 12/13 months - it was actually quite comical at first but I have learned by experience not to show that I find it funny or it escalated - in fact any reaction at all will. no 2 started by stamping his tiny foor on the floor I just ignored it and walked out of the room they did still get worse topped at about 2to 2 1/2 yrs old but worsened when tired or hungry so I made sure before I said no to scnack that I meant it - then stuck to it

So should I start to ignore them? Currently I just try to distract him with toys or books, but I don't give him what he wants.

main thing is consistency. Distraction is fine, ignoring is fine - if they're throwing a tantrum they're old enough to be treated as such - you don;t say how old you little one is - mainly though is once you say no - it has to remain no or...you no's will me maybe if you push it far enough hence make sure before you say no you're prepared to carry that through.

sorry 7mths preggie brain and tired you say 14 months - he's going to push it with you your presumably main caregiver and the one he can count on to love him when he tests you he will also know which of your buttons to push. Sounds like you're doing fine just keep at it the more they get a consistent response the less they try to push it. My 2 yr old puts himself!!! on the stairs (I do get him back off again)because hes seen me do it with the older 2 - I think they understand more than we give them credit for sometimes.

18 months for massive lying on the floor sceaming. A bit earlier for less showy ones. I did a mix of placating, distracting and ignoring - dependent on where the tantrum was (ie I didn't ignore when ds through himself on the floor in the middle of a car park ).

Yes mollieo I was presuming they were taking place at home, I've had a few out that can be really embarassing

Oh no, so fun times ahead huh!!

I am a firm believer in consistency and quite a stubborn person who hates to give in so I think I am well placed to stay firm, but I've never dealt with a toddler before so who knows!

proper lying down on the floor (including in the snow yesterday!!) screaming, kicking and refusing to move only started recently at about 21 months. crying when told no started pretty early!

Throw a paddy right back at 'em.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uffJqLn8Rc

My DS2 started very early but they were mostly swift and quickly resolved.

Got worse later but thankfully not that often for bad long ones.

DS1 definitely started later but he can still through a whacking one at six .

14 months here for DS. He's just coming out the otherside (he's in 6th form)

DD never really had tantrums as a toddler, only started to get stroppy as she became hormonal at about 10 -11

Before I write this, we had many other things to deal with, but full on tantrums we have not had and dd four now.