Hi
I have a friend whose husband has just left her. He was pretty controlling, a workaholic, psychologically disturbed and an adulterer. So I think she is genuinely quite relieved that he has gone. This all happened over christmas, so it is quite new and sore.
She has 2 kids - DS is 3 and DD is 14months. He left her once before when she was PG with DD.
Over the last year there has been lots of upheaval at their house including her MIL and SIL coming to live with them, which made life very hard.
Last time her husband left her he left her with no money (he has lots), and just cut her off really. She is clearly worried about what she will do in the long and short term for money.
Her main worry is her DS, who has reacted very badly to the whole situation. TBH it has been getting worse for some time with him. He is now up half the night and complaining about strange men and being frightened. He is clearly disturbed and it is upsetting her very much. He wont settle and his behaviour is sometimes worrying. I have told her that I think that she just needs to be as loving and constant as possible and that it may take a long time for him to heal. But she is really looking for help.
I am seeing her tonight and would appreciate any bits of wisdom to pass on regarding her DS.