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8yo DD what do you think?

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nannynobnobs · 08/01/2010 22:51

I have tried five times to write this out and thought it sounded weird, wrong, dodgy or sensationalist!
The mum of one of dd1's schoolfriends stopped me on the school walk and showed me a card she had given him.
The outside was innocuous, just a drawing of them both and 'friends' written underneath...
then I opened it and she had drawn two people 'having sex' and written something like 'me and you will be having sex' or something equally un poetic.
(the male had a stick willy pointing out, the woman had an O and they were hugging... bear in mind the basic element of an 8yo's artistry)

Thankfully the boy's mum laughed and was fine about it, but equally she could have been really shocked about it and made a fuss!
I was completely on the back foot.
DD1 is quite 'young' for her age really, she still likes CBeebies along with CBBC and hangs on determinedly to her old toys/habits. Her TV viewing is generally Boomerang or Doctor Who which though scary in parts tends to lay off the sex thing.
It didn't help my desire to have a quiet reasoned talk when she flat out said "I didn't do ANYTHING"
Then like getting blood from a stone, very gradually, admitted that she'd drawn the picture but "Not the writing" (IN HER WRITING!)
she was stubborn as anything even though I said I was not going to tell her off at all.
I left it at saying "Draw what you like at home, but don't give them to people at school because it's inappropriate and you might upset somebody"
Still unsure as to whether I made a complete tits of the whole thing I'm sure I was too forceful, or not forceful enough, or bombastic, or something. I just DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO not been in this before!!

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Cybils · 08/01/2010 22:53

I would drop it IIWY. She's probably done it to make friends laugh or to make out she knows more than she does. My ds is 8 and says things about bodies and stuff without any actual knowledge to back it up.

As long as you think its not coming form somwhere more sinister, I would not mention it again.She's probably mortified.

nannynobnobs · 08/01/2010 22:55

I would like to add that I'm sure by now she knows what 'sex' is (ie something that two grown ups do with the dangly bit and the lady bit, we have talked about babies and periods before) I haven't kept everything away from her and coddled her but neither have I told her everything straight up in hard facts.
I think that might be my issue. Please don't give me lots of shit... [lost cause emoticon]

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nannynobnobs · 08/01/2010 22:59

Thanks Cybils I did drop it after the walk home. After that everything was fine, if possibly more easy going than usual for some reason. It was the bald faced graphic- ness of the drawing that made me sit back! I was so relieved that the lads mum just laughed and said not to worry. But I don't think it comes from anything more sinister at all, obviously it creeps into your mind, but no.

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GracieW · 08/01/2010 23:53

OMG, how embarrassing for you

Sounds like you dealt without overreacting though, well done you.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 09/01/2010 06:20

Perhaps, you do need to have the talk. Give her the straight up hard facts or give her a book that will do it for you.

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