Ds(3 yrs) acts like complete poultice when Granny is around.

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That's it really.

Drives me batty.

She (my mum) lets him do ANYTHING he wants, often despite danger.

We are a close extended family and live within spiting distance so spend a lot of time together.

It is causing friction. Mum knows she is too soft but doesn't do anything about it. When she is here, he is like a different child - badly behaved, hyped-up, awkward and far too rough. As soon as she leaves, he is back to his usual, fairly ammenable self.

What to do? ANy ideas? We have talked, but she doesn't change her behavior around him

How harsh are you willing to be?

Would you go with 'you have one more chance to toughen up or you visits will be restricted/stopped?'

I haven't got any useful suggestions but hoping this will get some more interest for you. It's difficult, is it definately all your mum or would it be worth laying down ground rules for you ds before she comes and making her visits very short to practice or something like that?

Hmmmm - it is really hard with mum's ! I only speak form experience - my mum also let's my kids do anything - cue playing with 'fishing rods' nanny had made them, unattended in the back garden by the large pond. They are 2 & 4!

However, I think she has learnt after my 4 year old broke some 40year old christmas decorations as she let him play with them, he then 'lot' her car keys for 24 hours as again she let him play with them. This meant she couldn't get to work!!!

No real advise as such - I just bit my tounge alot.

Thanks for your replies.

Wasn't on last night so only just looking in now.

I couldn't be quite that harsh, paranoidmother, as my Mum is a bit, ahem, sensitive. Also since Dad died she only has us (I am her only).

pippy, every so often something happens and sh etoughens u-p slightly for a bit, but nowhere near enough.

I'm just going to have to keep saying it, aren't I?

i have same problem with mil, they live 300 miles away we see them every 3 months or so ds really loves his nana as she gives into him ALL the time I have said about no sweets or very limited but she never listens and if i say no to him and she hears she will get him the sweets or whatever he was after, has caused many arguments with dh and me as he wont say anything in case it upsets her!! we spent xmas up with them and ds has finally realised that we will not give in to him.