At what age are children...

[ElenorRigby]

able to choose and put their own clothes on?

depends entirely on the child but by school age for sure

my son is 5 and he does. Yep we get wierd combinations some days - shorts when it's icy - but in general he makes appropriate choices.

My nearly 4yo still lets me choose his clothes and will dress his bottom half but not his top.

My nearly 2yo DD picks her clothes most of the time and is just starting to dress herself.

As for when mothers actually relinquish control over what their children wear, I tihnk that is an entirely different question

I knew one poor sod of a man who's mother picked out his outfits every day and laid them out the night before right up until the day he left for university

My 2.7yr old picks her own clothes and mainly dresses herself. Tights are a bit haphazard though.

DS is 3.5 and sometimes chooses his own clothes, other times I leave them out on the bed for him. He can mostly dress himself but sometimes needs assistance with socks.

On mornings when we have to be out of the house on time there are often frequent repetitions of 'DS please get dressed', rising in pitch. But he's not keen for me to dress him now...

DS is 3.5 and can pretty much dress himself (as long as we don't have buttons) but if he's tired or we need to get on he might let me help him. He's not mastered buttons yet but can just about do a zip (with time and not when we have only 5 mins to leave the house...! He went through a phase of having quite strong opinions of what he'd wear but that's often due to the texture of whatever it is (ie is it scratchy ) rather than something necessarily going together. I actually dread more DH getting either DS or DD dressed when he's chosen their clothes - I think he's colour blind

DD who is 3.5 shows no interest whatsoever in dressing herself. Have been wondering how to get her to do this. She genuinely can't seem to get trousers on etc but am wondering if she just doesn't want to do it.

DD can choose a reasonable outfit, needs a bit of help putting it on, mostly to get the trousers over her big fat cloth bum. She picks a better outfit than DH does, he doesn't 'get' colours/clashing etc. She's 2.9.

DD is 2 years, 5 months.

oh and she is very determined to choose her clothes and put them on!

DS 3.8 can dress himself, apart from socks, but much prefers for me to do it. depends on my mood/time whether i do or not.

DD1 (6) doesn't care what she wears and happily lets me choose everything for her (whether buying or wearing), although she has dressed herself since 2 and a bit.

DD2 (3)chooses her own clothes, will not wear anything that does not match or she does not like. She will refuse even to wear an elastic hairband if it does not match. Therefore she chooses her own clothes (to buy and to wear). Thankfully, she has actually got very good dress sense and has never yet opted for ridiculous choices. I do retain the right to veto her choices if inappropriate. She also dresses herself in the mornings and has done since 2 and a bit. Obviously, when they dress themselves, it limits what they can wear - so when they were 2, my children almost entirely lived in velour trousers and a simple top that could be pulled over their heads.

I wouldn't dream of dressing my three year old now! But it does vary from child to child - my DD1 actually asks my DD2 whether her clothes match, if left to her own defences!