OMG.
My lovely, happy, chilled, calm child has turned into a demon and I am at the end of my tether, so is DH.
DS was born 4 wks ago. DD of course was a bit unsettled with this, and had a bit of an increase in tantrums, mainly with DH, but we felt it was manageable.
However, she has been constantly in his face, had tried to pick him up etc (to be expected of course) and we felt we had dealt with the instant excitement of her trying to pick him up, while still aware we had to watch her around him.
We have just spent almost 2 weeks with family, including at one point 7 other children. 4 of those children were from abroad so had different time zones and jetlag, and also parents had differing parenting style.
DDs routine has gone to pot, she would not go to sleep at her bed time as the other kids were still allowed to run riot, same with her eating. The other kids ate when they liked and did not eat much, ate a lot of junk, drank a lot of sugary drinks, DD wanted some when they did, not helped with DH saying 'she is on holiday, let her have some'. She has learned some awful behaviour from the other children (not necessarily their behaviour on their own was bad, just different and they fed of each other).
She has pretty much stopped listening. She will ask for something, while taking it, and continue taking it as if we have not spoken when we say No. She runs off which she never did before, she will not come back when we call her, she shouts, she answers back.
but, the worst is the ignoring. Some examples.
This morning, she wanted some chocolate from the quality street tin. Once apon a time we would not need to hide as when we say No she listens. She had the tin, hand in it, while asking. I said not before breakfast, and while I was talking she was saying 'i will just have one, this one' and I said No, and No, and Put that chocolate back, and give me the tin etc, and she continued to take the chocolate out and unwrap it as if I was not talking. I took it off her and she went into the front room to see DH. He then turned to find her sat behind a chair eating a chocolate. Her answer when asked why she took it when told no was 'i wanted it anyway'. I took her play dough away from her and no chocolate for today.
The biggest problem is the ignoring with DS. She won't leave him alone, and she will now try to pick him up even when I am sat right next to him and won't put him down, she will have her fingers prodding and poking him when I am trying to feed him she will to touch my boobs when feeeding him, pull his feet, and generally be in his face constantly.
I am saying No DD, please do not touch him, give him some space,please let him sleep/eat, please let him alone, No, No, No, NO!!!!! and I am ending up shouting at her.
She will then leave him, and pull a plug on something I can't get to while feeding, drop things on the floor, constantly do something, then something else, then something else until I get really upset.
DH and I seem to be angry more and more and I hate this, I hate being like this, I hate her being like this.
I cannot leave DS for a second today, even in the same room, if he is in the moses basket so is she.,
She has also broken the laptop as she picked it up.
Right this second I am feeding the boy and she is climbing a chest of drawers to get her old advent calender even though I am asking her not to, she has just pulled down a ton of stufff, found her purple scissors and is refusing to give them to me, crying that they are hers, now run off into the front room, finally given them to me, so she can get some paper and is trying to snatch them from me while I feed the baby. She is now distraught.
I am dreading bedtime as she is very tired and is refusing to go to bed. She is wild.
I want her back. And I have no idea what to do now. Please help.