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linzoid · 08/06/2003 19:20

My 4 yr old ds has a friend of the same age. We regularly meet up and both boys are often getting into mischief. e.g when we have been to the soft play place they have gone in the toilets and covered themselves in soap, pinched icecreams from the fridge, climbed on things they shouldn't and once or twice upset other kids pretending to shoot them and being generally over excitable. I thought this was within normal range for boys. My ds friend goes to speech therapy and hasn't hit it off with the lady there from the start (friend tells me she thinks she doesn't have children of her own) He does not want to cooperate or concentrate on whats she's trying to do with him and last week she said she wanted him checking out as she thought he had behaviour problems. Obviously his mum is shocked and upset but it set me thinking that if he has a problem then my son must aswell! Both of them sleep fine from 6:30 at night so i can't imagine that it's hyperactivity but they don't seem to listen to us much. ds friends mum is also concerned that he walks on tiptoe alot of the time. Does anyone have any advice?

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Jimjams · 08/06/2003 20:11

aha- walking on tiptoe is a sign of sensory problems which can give rise to all sorts of behavioural problems (see BIBIC message in special needs for more info). if your friend's DS is in SALT then he may well have some problems. Your friend may like to get herself a copy of "the out of sync child" which talks about sensory problems- may give some ideas. May also be worth her checking out dyspraxia. The dyscovery centre (correct spelling they have a website- can be found on google) is very good.

Don't worry about not getting on with the SALT. I have seen many SALTS- some I think are the most wonderful people on the earth, and one I think is an absolute liability!

Also your friends' ds's problems does NOT mean your DS has a problem. The behaviour you describe sounds totally normal for two over-excited boys. The behaviour with the SALT shows that your friends son cannot follow adult direction very well. This can be a sign of future problems (and is very likely anyway if he has sensory issues) but I think many 4 year old boys have problems with adult direction.

HTH!

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