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sleepless!! help

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CleosMam · 29/12/2009 23:59

im currently writing this with my 9 month old dd asleep on my chest! she absolutely refuses to sleep in her cot! up until a few months ago, she always slept right through in her own cot in her own room but its all changed

she wakes up every 20ish minutes and screams her head off until i get her out. until recently ive had to bed share with her (i know i shouldnt have, and trust me ive felt absolutely terrible about it but after a 3 weeks having about an hours sleep every night i just wanted some sleep) but ive put an end to it because i cant stand the worry.

ive tried everything. gradual withdrawel didnt work because even if i got into the cot with her (trust i nearly did at one point) it still wouldnt settle her. and even controlled crying didnt seem to work. she screamed bloody murder for nearly 3 hours and didnt show any signs of giving up. plus where i live is a flat block which is about 99% sheltered accomodation for the elderly so controlled crying not only makes me feel guilty for letting her cry i have the added bonus of waking up about seven 90 year olds at 3am.

PLEASE HELP ME IM STARTING TO GO MAD

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PoppyIsApain · 30/12/2009 00:40

First things first, the elderly all did controlled crying in their day from what i have heard.Could she be teething, i would be tempted to give her calpol, bonjela and a warm bottle and pray but i assume you would of tried that one, other than that i would struggle tomorrow and not let her have more than 2-3 hours nap so that she is so tired she cant help but sleep the night.
Sorry to not be much help but didnt want nobody to see your message till the morning

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CleosMam · 30/12/2009 00:48

she barely naps thats the thing, she only has two 1 hour naps during the day..

maybe shes just weird!!

i think tomorrow ill get my friend to come stay over and make me do controlled crying properly.. i gotta admit i am a soft touch, the thing is i find it more annoying than upsetting :/ it just frustrates me so much. is that heartless? :/

more advice is highly welcome

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PoppyIsApain · 30/12/2009 00:52

That is not heartless, i also get more frustrated when ds crys, i feel for him but selfishly want him to be quiet so i can sleep. No more advice left but i do think getting your friend to help is a good idea. Good luck with it

naturopath · 30/12/2009 02:16

maybe there's something (medical) bothering her?

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CleosMam · 30/12/2009 02:23

thanks for your view but im sure theres not.shes a very healthy happy baby thank god

coz she sleeps fine in my bed.. even if im not in it! im considering saying fuck it and buying one of those special cots that go next to your bed and have a side missing for safe co-sleeping :/

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naturopath · 30/12/2009 02:34

yes, do it! If she'll sleep there (sounds like she will) def worth the money IMO (having had 2 terrible sleepers who sleep in my bed AND wake up every 20 mins / hour..)

carocaro · 30/12/2009 02:44

cranial osteopath?

it's really hard, I can offer you so much empathy, one of my boys was a bugger in the sleep department, was very near the edge on many occasions.

here's a glimmer of hope, some say that sleepless babies are really great sleeper when toddlers and the best behaved. And I can defo vouch for that, my 2.5 year old is brilliant NOW!

seeker · 30/12/2009 06:42

Take her into your bed - it's perfectly safe as long as you are in a proper bed and you aren't taking alcohol or drugs.

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CleosMam · 30/12/2009 12:18

yes but i dont want her in my bed! when my DP comes over some privacy would be nice lol.

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seeker · 30/12/2009 12:59

ah - 5 thought you didn't want her in your bed because you thought it was dangerous.

You and dp could be more...imaginative... about your location, IYSWIM?!

sgtmajormum · 01/01/2010 14:40

Hi there I am mum to 2.5 ds. At about same age he went from an angel who would self settle to a screaming banshee! I tried so many things and eventually (after many many sleepless nights) twigged he stopped crying when i went in and picked him up (aha! attention seeking) Decided to pick a good week and do controlled crying. Was really really tough but glad I did it now as he was sleeping straight through the night again after about five days. I'd say persevere with this approach as you seem very uncomfortable with bed sharing (I was always petrified I would squash him. If you are worried about the neighbours then maybe you could pop round to a few of the closer ones and warn them that you are planning this.

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