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Bed-time traumas - At my wits end with a 16 week old - any advice please?

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Mole007 · 28/12/2009 11:04

Our DS was sleeping through perfectly from around 10 weeks, happy to get himself to sleep around 8 and then sleeping through til 7ish, with DH doing the dream feed at 10.30/11 ish. As of around 2 weeks ago, something has changed, and DS is now a howling banshee for anything up to 2 hours when trying to put him to bed. We haven't changed the routine (feed at 5, bath 6.15/6.30ish, top up feed at 7, snuggles and story then bed), but he is getting himself in such a state. He cries/screams whether lying down or held, and the pick up/put down thing is not working (he just works himself up more and more so that he ends up hysterical). My parents suggested just leaving him to cry it out, but I really feel that he is to young for that....but he is essentially crying himself out anyway! He finally falls asleep with exhaustion, leaving DH and I drained. He is throughly winded (a very windy baby who needs a lot of winding), so I don't think that is the problem. The GP helpfully stated that it was colic....thought that was supposed to stop at 3 months, not start, and HV have been about as much use as a chocolate teapot.

Please, has anyone any suggestions. DS is a gorgeous happy boy, and to see him so distressed every night is really not fun

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Brachy · 31/12/2009 13:55

If he is really colicky or just a windy baby,try Comfort milk (Cow and Gate make it). It has helped our DS with wind/colic.

beammeupscotty · 31/12/2009 15:23

PRYAG I did read the original post. I didnt say they left him in another room to cry it out. I merely say I disagreed with what her PARENTS said to do. May be I didnt make it clear I was critisising what her parents were suggesting and it would be detrimental to development. MOLE007 just needs to continue giving security till DS settles back down into a routine having ruled out such aS hunger, reflux etc. He does sound as though he is overtired - hence the hysteria even when cuddled (they just get beside themselves). Try a quiet hour before bedtime/bath routine. no stimulating play - he sounds over stimulated to me. Also contact health visitor and if continues there are HVs who specialise in sleep disorders. Good luck and dont worry - it will be fine in a couple of weeks and you'll wonder why you were so stressed

GoldenGreen · 31/12/2009 15:28

If cuddling and feeding aren't helping, I would try some calpol next time to see if it's teething

cassell · 31/12/2009 15:46

If you don't want to give calpol too frequently you could try the teething powders (as these are also good for general soothing) and they are herbal. The ones I use are these and they do seem to have a calming effect.

Mole007 · 31/12/2009 21:24

Many thanks for all the responses, some more helpful than others . It seems like we have a break-through! Fed for 1 hour 45 mins this evening (my poor, poor nipples), and then went to bed like the angel baby that he was previously. Hadn't crossed my mind that he wanted to feed like this as he was previously finishing, and showing that he didn't want anymore, but I must have been reading him wrong! And I wanted to avoid giving him food after crying bouts as this led to tummy pains. However, just letting him feed for so long hasn't produced the same writhing!

Oh, and he has now developed the trick of latching on to my chin - not subtle but it works!!!!

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pinchmeimustbedreaming · 01/01/2010 07:26

well done good for you your husband and little one what a wonderful break through and just in time for a new year, hope its a good one for you and yours

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